Before I introduce you to the Extraverted
feeling type of person, we must first outline the features of extraverted feeling as a psychological
function in general. “In precisely the same way as extraverted
thinking strives to rid itself of subjective influences, extraverted feeling has to undergo
a process of differentiation before it is finally denuded of every subjective trimming.” Extraverted Feeling is intertwined to generally
accepted norms and traditions, or to objective facts. For instance, feelings induced by actions
perceived as taboo by the majority will be banished from the person’s feeling repertoire.
What is valued are socially acceptable endeavors, and of a collective nature; like going to
church, to the movies, attending a football cup, activities that illicit feelings everyone
sees as just, or that can be felt in a group, and that others seem to feel on the regular.
Here, and more or less like extraverted thinking, the extraverted feeling function works as
a judgement metric in that what is felt as socially acceptable is labeled good, the rest
is malevolent. “The valuations resulting from the act of
feeling either correspond directly with objective values or accord with traditional and generally
accepted standards.” The extraverted feeling function absorbs what
external objects have to offer feeling wise. It operates according to the nature of extraverted
consciousness which features an outward-directedness. The person gets his feelings from the environment,
draws from something to himself. What he feels are the limits of what the object provides
to feel. Perhaps, and as far my speculation goes, the
opposite might be the introverted who feels the personal impressions he himself asbribes
to the object. I assume that by an actually joyful event, happiness induced in the extraverted,
but sadness in the introverted, as he does not only, or not even, feel the limits of
the happening, but might also project his worries and fantasies onto it which will distort
it. Keep in mind that concerning extraverted psyche,
disorders mainly happen because the object gains the upper hand over the function. And
the latter exaggerated, garner a hysterical turn. In this case, and similar to extraverted thinking,
things can go in the wrong if the subject starts to wholly lose oneself in externals.
What was at first a person who can feel the emotions something or someone offers, the
feeling function having been exaggerated, loosens the personality structure to a point
it can be easily swallowed by the stimulus provider. The subject melts in the object.
Emotions and facials he displays gain an imitative character.
A smile turns an unconscious smirk. He may go as far as to resort to people please,
to be agreeable in excess, totally unaware that he’s faining emotions as a means to an
end. This façade can be pleasurable, to the aestete.
To those of a thinking type, can go undetectable. They can do without genuine displays of feeling,
gauge others of their intellectual prowess. “Over-extraverted feeling may satisfy aesthetic
expectations, but it does not speak to the heart; it appeals merely to the senses or—worse
still—only to reason.” “It no longer makes that agreeable and refreshing
impression which invariably accompanies genuine feeling; instead, one suspects a pose, or
that the person is acting, even though he may be quite unconscious of any egocentric
motives. ” In addition to mimickry, this neurotic state
of being overly immersed in externals causes an exaggeration. Feeling overrides all other
functions–identity is lost. “The subject becomes so enmeshed in the network
of individual feeling processes that to the observer it seems as though there were merely
a feeling process and no longer a subject of feeling”.
“Feeling in this state has lost all human warmth; it gives the impression of being put
on, fickle, unreliable, and in the worst cases hysterical. ” – The personality loses touch with identity,
a loss of control over its functions follow; from an outer view others perceive no subject
in the driving seat, only scattered feeling processes alternating one after another. The
feelings emerge compulsively; hysterical, excessive laughter; sudden break downs, and
a mix of both; a neurotic state. So to reiterate:
First, we have a healthy normal feeling function that is dependent on the environment for orientation.
Insofar as the subject is able to distinguish between his identity and his feelings he is
psychically stable. But when a life crisis comes about, or in
the natural case, whenever the person became reliant on people or objects to maintain that
stability, the extraverted feeling function then has to work in excess, craving more and
more of externals, in turn, the person reaches to a point in which he cannot be calm or normal
unless there’s something intense to feel. In which case, even the slightest stimuli
induces reactions out of proportion. From here follows hysteria, mimickry and people
pleasing, strange vibes, gushing talk and suchlike extraverted tendencies which are
an exaggeration of the normal attitude. “The force of extraverted feeling then pulls
the personality into the object, the object assimilates him, whereupon the personal quality
of the feeling, which constitutes its chief charm, disappears. It becomes cold, “unfeeling,”
untrustworthy. It has ulterior motives, or at least makes an impartial observer suspect
them. ” I will talk more of this disordered side in
the next one. Some concepts may still seem vague, given that this video is one part of
the series, which is why I urge you to watch the next ones as well as previous to grasp
some technical terms should they be repeated.