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Top 10 Ice-Breakers To Start A Conversation | Don’t Be Nervous | Speak Confidently With Strangers

October 10, 2019


So whether you want to start a conversation
with a new guy or girl you find attractive, or you want to start a conversation with someone
in your office possibly a new colleague, what you need is a good icebreaker and what is
an icebreaker? Well icebreaker is the opening communication. The first conversation that
you have with somebody and this conversation can create a lasting impression on that person
which can indeed turn into lasting friendship and valuable partnerships. So breaking the
ice and opening the lines of communication can be useful not just with colleagues but
also with anyone who we are beginning to know. A bad icebreaker however can be a recipe for
disaster. So how do you start a meaningful conversation? This has been a question for
many people, especially with someone new and avoid embarrassing situations or awkward moments
of silence with someone. So where do you begin? You have to understand that it is normal to
feel a bit nervous when you approach someone. Everyone gets a bit nervous, after all you
don’t know what this person is thinking about you and what this person is like. The person
could be grumpy, a mean guy but the only way to know for sure what the person is like is
to get over being shy and approach them. That person might turn out to be the nicest and
the kindest person you ever meet. Great! So this is how you can start a conversation with
somebody, you can start by filling your mind with possible icebreakers to start a conversation
and follow-up questions to sustain the conversation and to help you out with ideas for starting
a conversation I’ve got for you 10 of the most effective icebreakers you can use in
different situations, my name is Michelle and you’re watching me on Skillopedia the
place to learn skills for the real world. “How are you doing today miss?” A genuine
hello accompanied by a three seconds is one of the most basic and highly effective icebreaker.
Many times we ignore the simple things as being too simple not realizing that simple
things can have the biggest impact sometimes. So think about the people who say, ‘good
morning’ or ‘howdy’ to their neighbors. This simple greeting is usually followed up
with ‘how are you?’ or ‘how are your kids?’ and it’s not long before the two
parties are talking about their families and even their favorite sports. So this is the
first conversation breaker that you can use, an icebreaker that you can use to engage in
a conversation with somebody. “Does this shop always have such long queues?” Simply
commenting on an uncomfortable or unpleasant situation that you both are experiencing in
your immediate surroundings is another smart way for starting a conversation with somebody.
So you can comment about a long queue or a long bathroom line or a wobbly waiting room
chair while you are sitting and waiting for something and by focusing on an unpleasant
situation that you both find yourselves in and smartly complaining about it, you cleverly
join the other person against a common enemy and that’s a good place to start, because
whenever you have a common problem there is a lot to talk about. “Mumbai really is a
Windy City” yes, talk about the weather. It may sound cliché but it works wonders
in real life. People talk about the weather all the time. It’s a topic everyone has an
opinion about, isn’t it? This one can never go old. Think of how you have an opinion about
what dress you should wear for a particular weather and what kind of clothes should you
wear for a particular weather. So once the person responds you can continue with the
small talk by saying something in response like, ‘the wind is so strong, it nearly
blew me over’ etc. etc. So weather is always a good place to start with somebody you don’t
know. “Oh! Did you hear about that..?” So you can kick start a conversation by talking
about an interesting, entertaining, funny news. You may not like reading the latest
news very much but you’ll find that it is a very useful conversation starter to break
the ice with someone. So try a simple, ‘did you hear about what happened in LA recently?’
then get right into your conversation as you start describing what happened there and how
things went wrong and then allow the other person to give an opinion about the story
and here you are already engaged in a conversation about a news event that happens somewhere
in the world and if your story is interesting enough you could stretch the conversation
as far as you both want. “What kind of a drink is that?” People love eating and drinking.
If the person you want to start a conversation with has a nice looking drink or a delicious
looking burger, comment on how delicious or not so delicious the burger looks, or else
you could ask her or him what kind of drink he or she is having and when they reply you
could say something like, ‘do you really like it?’ ‘Can I buy you another?’ I
know that’s a bit cheesy but it’s up to you and up to the situation whether you want to
say that or not. Then you can introduce yourself and don’t forget to flash your best charming
smile that is what works wonders. “That’s a lovely name, are you named after someone?”
This works especially well in a workplace setting, in a business meeting or the conference
where people are wearing name tags. So if somebody has an interesting name, walk up
to that person and say something like ‘Camélia, lovely name, what’s the origin of the name?’
That’s a nice place to start and she’ll probably be excited to tell you about her French name,
maybe it’s French and before you know it, you’re already talking to her and a conversation
has started and if my name is ordinary or common however you might not find too many
interesting questions to ask but in that case you are still in a conversation and you can
extend it further. “Hello, do you work here?” This also works well at a workplace or a business
setting where people are wearing name tags again. Even if you know the answer ask whether
he works there anyway, if you know some people who work at his company or retail store you
can mention to them like, ‘oh! My friend Jake also works here, ah do you know him?
And then you can follow up with some related questions like, ‘what do you do here?’
and ‘have you been working here for a very long time?’, ‘do you like it?’, ‘are
you enjoying your work?’ and ‘what’s your favorite or worst part of your job?’ So
these are the kind of questions that you can ask somebody, when you meet them possibly
at a conference or at a business meeting. “Excuse me, I just thought I should come
over and talk to you…” Sometimes the best and most fun icebreaker is honesty. Walk up
to the person and just be honest. Tell him or her that you want to talk to her talk to
that person and point out how awkward and funny the situation is for both of you and
that you are trying to make the best of it and sometimes that can also work for you.
So if you’re quite an honest person and you want to be honest and clear in your first
meeting just go up to them. “Nice earrings” this comment is a classic technique to break
the ice with someone. No matter whom you’re talking to, saying something genuinely nice
about their outfit, accessories or even personality will usually get you a good response and the
person receiving the compliment will thank you and possibly say something nice about
you in return and while doing this a conversation starts. So keep the conversation going by
asking a question like, ‘where did you buy these earrings from?’ ‘I really like them’.
So these are my top conversation starters to break the ice with someone. Write them
down, memorize them and use them. All the best! Hope you have a fun time breaking the
ice with someone you like.

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71 Comments

  • Reply Edutainment TV May 8, 2019 at 11:26 am

    1st day 1st view 😍😍

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    I love u ma'am😍

  • Reply Ajay Kumar May 8, 2019 at 11:30 am

    How many of you're watch channel due to Michelle ma'am?😅😅

  • Reply shalini Joseph May 8, 2019 at 11:31 am

    Thank u! Mam

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  • Reply Shubham Pundeer May 8, 2019 at 11:39 am

    Hey Michelle mam.. You are fabulous @ your work.. ❤️👍

  • Reply O'SSÉIN - Master Your Mind With Me May 8, 2019 at 11:42 am

    Conversing confidently takes time and practice. Work on your self-esteem to improve social skills. We are often times are scared of small things and that comes from childhood experiences.

  • Reply Amazing Truth Ministry May 8, 2019 at 12:00 pm

    You are looking more and more beautiful…dear mis

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    I have a foul breath so I don't to anyone😂

  • Reply Ayush thakur May 8, 2019 at 12:12 pm

    Ice breaker

  • Reply STUART recreation May 8, 2019 at 12:16 pm

    BE AWARE … Co-accidently …Madam, if I got you somewhere, I would definitely ask you d same ,that your earrings are good enough,and will wait for friendship with you.😇😉😇

  • Reply Shubham Patil May 8, 2019 at 12:21 pm

    Come in Bollywood

  • Reply Apple May 8, 2019 at 12:24 pm

    This is a good video! It's helpful~

  • Reply vikash kushwaha May 8, 2019 at 12:31 pm

    Thank you gorgeous maam.

  • Reply SHAD ALI May 8, 2019 at 12:47 pm

    Michelle have u ever saw the song"akhiyon ke jharokho se" if not so u have to see because there is an actress in that song and u same to her….after seeing tell me. Am I right or wrong.

  • Reply KATRAVATH VISHAL May 8, 2019 at 12:56 pm

    Thank you for your suggestions……

  • Reply Arturo Cabello May 8, 2019 at 1:14 pm

    It's always a bit awkward at first. Keeping practicing! For most people, being a smooth talker doesn't come naturally.

  • Reply Md.Rizwan Khan May 8, 2019 at 1:26 pm

    Thank You ma'am.

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    22 nd comments

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    Ap kaha rahte ho maam

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    Plz batao na plz

  • Reply Nandkumar Rajput May 8, 2019 at 2:15 pm

    Hi ma'am

  • Reply Naresh Munda May 8, 2019 at 3:17 pm

    Thanks Mam

  • Reply Sandeep Yadav IT Professional May 8, 2019 at 3:29 pm

    Meri jag se pyaari mam
    Very nice
    But jenny mam se jyada nhi

  • Reply Sumeet Kumar Official May 8, 2019 at 3:37 pm

    Excellent mam, many thanks for the video!✌️✌️😊

  • Reply HK May 8, 2019 at 3:50 pm

    Ye video lernex per bhi hona chaiye Hindi me

  • Reply ashraf khan May 8, 2019 at 5:17 pm

    I love you Michelle

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    Like who loves Skillopedia

  • Reply GIRISH May 8, 2019 at 5:58 pm

    I was in search of this as i keep changing my work place ever two year 😂

  • Reply Prabath Mahendra May 8, 2019 at 6:18 pm

    Thanks a lot Michelle for gifted us those nice tips to improve communication skills with overcome being nervous and being more confident. Really appreciate if you come up with some topics about public speaking and interviews

  • Reply Shehantha Fernando May 8, 2019 at 7:07 pm

    DEAR teacher I definitely appreciate your great effort.one suggestion for you.please pay more attention the whitening cream that you use

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    Niharika Suits for this! Lol😂♥

  • Reply mohd Ashraf May 9, 2019 at 2:26 am

    Great asusial ❤❤❤

  • Reply vrajesh barot May 9, 2019 at 2:49 am

    "michelle"
    Lovely name
    What's the origin
    Of the name?😅

  • Reply Ranjith kumar May 9, 2019 at 5:24 am

    Thanks Michelle 😊

  • Reply Khush champ May 9, 2019 at 5:29 am

    2:15 se suru ha…..

  • Reply Juanvi Marco May 9, 2019 at 5:56 am

    Hello,, interesting video. If is possible, you can also talk if you have children or pets.
    By. 🇪🇸🇪🇸

  • Reply Shubham Yadav May 9, 2019 at 9:32 am

    Thanks you so much Mam, your tips are going to create in my conversation.

  • Reply Siva Pm May 11, 2019 at 8:21 am

    nice video..really useful

  • Reply go sharp May 11, 2019 at 1:18 pm

    You always brings something so good to teach us and I m so grateful for your efforts thank you ma'am

  • Reply Prasool Palamadathil May 12, 2019 at 2:09 pm

    Very good video

  • Reply nikhil shirsat May 13, 2019 at 4:38 pm

    Video starts from 2:19 ..thank me later

  • Reply Anil kumar May 14, 2019 at 11:16 am

    thanku you for giving such valuable advice

  • Reply Jain Mathew May 17, 2019 at 1:52 pm

    Thank you so much teacher.
    I want you to break the ice with me!!!!

  • Reply abbas ali May 19, 2019 at 5:35 pm

    A beautiful girl

  • Reply Mr. Vinil Krishna May 20, 2019 at 9:04 am

    Thank you million times!!
    Hope my biggest weakness now become strength!!!

  • Reply nikki paapu May 20, 2019 at 6:14 pm

    Hellow ma'am,can you plzz make a video on how to become teacher's pet…. 🙂

  • Reply Adriana Girdler May 23, 2019 at 6:40 pm

    Using ice breakers for a new conversation is the perfect way to get to know a colleague. I like the one about commenting on an unpleasant situation that you're both experiencing. This often actually helps it turn from a negative experience to a positive one. Cheers!

  • Reply vikash kushwaha May 24, 2019 at 3:52 am

    Thank you

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    Wow! Weight km kr liya…. Keep it up 😘

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    Assom & effective made by you👍👌

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    Yrr…channel accha h but bakwaas mt kra kro starting me….itni zyada…2-3minutes😒

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    Thanks thanks so very much 💯

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    Awesome video with beauty and brain mam…

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    This is all about girl.gotcha!

  • Reply tushar singh May 29, 2019 at 11:57 am

    thanks mam |\

  • Reply Ranjana Subburaj May 29, 2019 at 1:03 pm

    Mam you are so beautiful cute and gorgeous . Your English kills me I am dying to speak like you. I also want to speak English but I become so nervous while speaking.

  • Reply johndoh1000 June 5, 2019 at 9:22 am

    -Say hello and smile
    -Notice something that you can complain with the other person
    -Talk about the weather
    -Did you hear about …
    -What is that? Ask about their food, drink, fancy trinket
    -That’s a fancy name, where does that come from?
    -Hi do you work here? My friend works here, do you know him?
    -Excuse me, I thought I just ought to talk with you.
    -Nice earrings. Compliment something about them, then follow up with a question like where did you get them?

  • Reply Fathima shehla Haafiz June 16, 2019 at 11:49 am

    Thank you so much ma'am 🤗🤗🤗

  • Reply muthufine 21 June 20, 2019 at 9:30 am

    I wanna know about usage of "after all" In What situation we can use this word(after all)

  • Reply Trilok guru July 2, 2019 at 1:01 pm

    0:43 friendship??? lol

  • Reply Rohit Bainsla July 16, 2019 at 3:48 pm

    ma’am please make a video on self intro

  • Reply Anjan nayak July 17, 2019 at 2:51 pm

    You are superb mam 😊 👌👌👌👌 I have no word for you mam 😍😍😍😊😊😊😊

  • Reply sanu Kumar July 22, 2019 at 1:15 am

    I like your videos.
    But for better results for me please add subtitles of phrase and new words you use.

  • Reply Jaydeep Patil July 24, 2019 at 2:53 pm

    I really liked your channel.All speaker are really good with best content👍

  • Reply Wilberth Enrique August 2, 2019 at 3:28 am

    Thanks Michelle youre beatiful

  • Reply I_am_Knight _WinG_ August 12, 2019 at 3:04 pm

    2:18 👆

  • Reply Devendra Gupta September 1, 2019 at 4:48 am

    So so helpfull ….
    Mam thankuuuuu so much.

  • Reply Tula Pradeep kumar September 1, 2019 at 6:44 pm

    Mam if u were my English teacher @ schooling i might have secured hundred out of hundred in English.

  • Reply Rizwan khan September 20, 2019 at 5:28 pm

    Thanks madam very so nice. But please please please please please your any content number send me

  • Reply Roberto Gutierrez September 25, 2019 at 9:27 pm

    Sometimes I like to tell , how you doing mamacita , señorita ! and it’s work . they laughs !

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