In this video, I want to show you how to make
time for your goals, whether that is business goals, self-care goals, relationship goals.
What do you need to do or redo in order to consistently make space in your week for the
things that matter the most down the road? Now, this is super simple. I’m actually going
to break it down to four steps that you’re going to take. But just because it’s simple
doesn’t make it feel easy. I tend to walk clients through this because there tends to
be a lot of emotional challenges around making some of the decisions and doing some of the
things that you’re about to do. Again, simple, but it’s going to feel difficult because you’re
going to make some really tough choices here. So I’m going to do this on paper. Grab a piece
of paper and a pen. Literally, you can do this with me. It does not take that long.
Pause the video as you go along. Or watch this whole thing, come back, and watch it
again to take it step by step. So your very first step is going to be a calendar
review. This is going to enable you to get a big picture of what’s actually going on
right now. We think we know what’s going on. We’re in the midst of it day by day, right?
But it’s sort of like not being able to see the forest through all of the trees. We get
lost in the weeds of everything happening, and we need to be able to take a step back
to gain that bigger view and really be able to make these decisions. So what you’re going
to do is actually draw out a calendar. Now, you can do this digitally if you prefer. You
can print out a weekly calendar. But I like to just keep this simple and not add a lot
of steps to it. I am going to draw out … I think it’s six
lines. Maybe it’s more than that. 1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7.. 1, 2, 3, 4, 5 – 6 lines.
Our goal here is to write in our current schedule. So let’s say for instance that you work a
9-to-5. So you’re going to block off the time that you do your 9-5 work. And let’s also
say … Okay, we’ve got a 30-minute commute, so we want to add in this commute time before
and after. And maybe you do your grocery shopping on Saturday, so we’re going to do groceries
over here. And maybe you’ve got a dance recital for your kids on Wednesdays or their lessons
are on Wednesdays, and so we’re going to write that over here. Oh, don’t forget we also need
to actually eat dinner, and so let’s write that in right about here. Then, oh, there’s
this thing called sleep. That would be really nice. So we add that in. And what time are
we waking up? Oh, we got to get ready for work. So we’re adding all of that in. What
you’re going to see by the end of this, once you get everything in here, is an honest view
of what’s left. Now, a few things that I need you to remember
to do as you’re going through this. Go through your calendar over the last 3 months and look
at the things that have been on your calendar that maybe you’re not forgetting because they
don’t happen on a week-to-week, consistent basis. Also, make sure that you’re adding
in cushion. So let’s say your commute actually takes 20 minutes, but sometimes it’s 30 minutes.
Sometimes it’s even 40 minutes. You may want to add that in there so that you’re being
as realistic as possible. Oftentimes, I have clients do this and they
give me the best case scenario. Then 10 weeks go by and they’re like, “But this isn’t my
normal week.” And I’m going, “Honey, if it’s happened the last 10 weeks in a row, guess
what? This is your normal week, and this is why you’re not having the time that you want
to have for the goals that you’re trying to work on because we’re not being honest about
where our time actually goes.” We think that the non ideal things aren’t happening as often
as they actually are, but we actually can plan for them if we just take this honest
look. Write it all out so that it is on paper, black and white or red and white in front
of you. Hey, bosses. Different Tara here, interrupting
this video with a very important message. If you know that you have been getting in
your own way when it comes to your goals, meaning you got projects or ideas that you’ve
been sitting on maybe out of overwhelm, or procrastination, or even just not finding
the time in your busy life, but you’re ready to figure out how to make them happen with
coaching, with strategies, with the support, and the energy, and the accountability of
other amazing like-minded women, then I want to invite you to my 100% free 5-day get out
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regularly scheduled programming. The reason you want to go through your calendar
is to look at things that you might be forgetting. Just ask yourself, “What am I forgetting?
What usually happens on Saturdays or Sundays? Do I have parties that I go to? Do I have
family events that I need to go to? What’s going to happen in the next 3 months? Do I
have taxes that I need to sit down and do?” Maybe there’s doctor’s appointments that need
to be configured into this somehow. When do those happen when they do happen?
When you are pretty sure that you’re done with this, and it usually takes about 10 minutes
to really complete it completely, when you’re sure you’re done with it, then ask yourself,
“What’s left? What do I have available to my goals at this point?” Now, this can be
a very sombering view. Don’t let it depress you, because what we’re going to do next is
going to free up some additional time, but we just want to know where you’re starting
from. So your next step now is to look at this and
outline or highlight mindless time. This is time in your week that you are doing things
that don’t fully engage your brain. For instance, this could be your commute. This could be
getting ready for work. This can be doing dishes, doing chores, anything where multitasking
becomes a simple and actually recommended habit and not a bad habit. When you have all
of that mindless time highlighted on your calendar, go ahead and ask yourself, “How
can I fill this with things that will help me to reach my goals?”
For instance, there may be particular things that you want to learn. There may be mindsets
that you need to be focusing on or practicing. There may be things that inspire you, that
encourage you, that motivate you, that keep you on track. That’s the time to consume that
type of content. The other thing to do with mindless time is to turn it into family time.
Family time does not always have to mean sitting down around the table with the family or sitting
on the floor with the kids playing. Really, what family time is is connection, conversation,
and that can be happening during many different things in your day.
If you’re sitting there doing your hair, get your kids in the bathroom and play, and sing,
and have fun together while you’re doing that. Have them help you make dinner or clean up
dishes and have conversations about their day. Ask them questions, joke, play, and make
it fun. The more you connect and have family time during some of these otherwise mindless
activities, the more you’re going to be able to let the kids or the family do their own
thing while you take time for your goals. Once their cup is filled, they’re not going
to ask you to fill it while you’re trying to fill your own cup, right?
Once you have that highlighted, go ahead and write down the action steps to make that happen.
For instance, I need to download five audio books. I need to subscribe to 10 podcasts
that are specific to my industry. I need to find kid-friendly recipes so that we can be
cooking together. Turn it into an action step, a specific thing that you’re going to do so
that it actually gets done. By the way, a little bit of what we’re talking
about here is called time blocking. And if you’re curious about that, be sure to grab
the free download that I have below. It includes some action steps to take to help you to rearrange
your schedule even more. Now, number three is to look at your schedule
again and ask yourself, “What can I move or remove, and how?” By move, what I mean is
maybe you can group like things together so that they take more time. Excuse me, less
time. By remove, what I mean is maybe there are things you can uncommit from, things that
you can sacrifice or let go of. Even things that you think can’t be moved around often
can. Maybe you work nine to five Monday through Friday, but you could actually work four tens
instead and free up an entire day just for your goals. Maybe you can cancel Netflix.
Maybe you can uncommit from obligations or things that you promised to be doing for other
people. Maybe you can have someone else take the kids to their lessons.
Another example of this is cleaning less often or just differently. Instead of doing a big,
deep clean every Saturday, maybe you’re doing 30 seconds here and 30 seconds there throughout
your days so that you’re easily keeping the house clean and not having to dedicate a huge
chunk of time to it. Maybe you’re going to go to bed earlier, stay up a little bit later,
cancel Netflix, hire somebody. Whatever it is, what I want you to ask yourself is, what
could I move or remove if I really wanted to? Just make a list of possibilities, even
if right now your brain is telling you, “I couldn’t do that. I couldn’t do … I couldn’t
possibly change my work hours. I couldn’t possibly stay up later or get up earlier.
I’m not a morning person.” But if I was, what could I do? If I was willing to try something
new, what could I do? if I really wanted to, if I was going to pull out all the stops,
what are the things that I could move or remove in order to prioritize what I know really
matters to me? When you have this list, it’s up to you what
you want to actually act on. No one else is going to judge you for this, but yourself,
which I know can be the harshest judge of all. But keep this list because maybe you’re
just going to tweak a couple things now and come back to it to tweak a couple things later.
The point here is to stretch yourself to come up with new options instead of allowing your
mind to tell you it’s just not possible. Number four is proactive solutions. I want
you to look at your calendar. I want you to look over your last few months. I want you
to look ahead to your next few months and ask yourself, “What’s likely to throw me off?
Is it just going to be my morning routine? Is it going to be the kids getting sick? Is
it going to be some unexpected bill that comes up?” Something that might happen based on
what’s likely to happen based on what has happened in the past.
Our goal here is to look at things like upcoming birthday parties or interruptions at work
or at home when you’re working on your goals and solve for those things now. “What can
I do to help me proactively prevent or solve for these problems? If these things were to
come up, what can I do to stay on track with my goals regardless?” Remember the quote “an
ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure”? That’s exactly what we’re doing here. We’re
getting proactive to prevent the things that are going to throw us off.
So when you’re done with all this, the most important thing you can do now is to actually
look at the schedule and outline: “what’s the time that I have?. What time have I been
able to create? But here’s what’s crucial: Actually schedule specific tasks into that
timeframe now. If you freed up every Friday between 1-3 but you leave it as a blank space,
guess what’s going to happen when you need to schedule a doctor’s appointment? It’s going
to go in that blank space. But instead, if that space is filled up with write the book,
exercise, train for the marathon, that space is going to be saved for the goal that you’ve
actually put there. You’re going to be able to tell that doctor, “I’m not available Friday
at that time, but what about Monday at this time?”
Success is scheduled. And if you don’t put the specific tasks and steps related to success
on your calendar, it will not happen. Don’t open up all of this space and expect magic
to happen. Nature abhors a vacuum. Open up all of this space to immediately put in the
things that matter the most to you. By the way, if you’re new here, my name is
Tara Wagner. I’m a belief breakthrough coach helping women to crush their goals, not their
soul. And if you would love support on overcoming the limiting beliefs and the bad habits holding
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