My go-to resilience skill is the Interpersonal communication, the interpersonal skill of being able to talk to people, listen to people, whether it’s give feedback of something I know, or if I definitely don’t know what the topic is, being able to be that ear for them to listen to, and maybe guide them and maybe guide them to a better avenue that might have more information. I’ve forced myself to sit down and truly listen to the other person and
hear what they have to say and sometimes you have to listen to the intention of their words. People don’t always say
exactly what they mean. It interesting to me because most think, “Well, we have an interpersonal issue ight here and we need to work though it, you know. And I need to make sure that I can generate a solution that I’m happy with.” And if we don’t generate your solution then you’re upset. I get frustrated very easily. Sometimes I’d get angry about stuff, and it’s funny because in the moment you’re angry, but you’re like, “I don’t need to be, and I don’t know why I am. I just am.” But you don’t necessarily, completely know how to just stop it in the moment. You really have to collaborate and look for those win-win situations. If something is not a big deal to you, then you shouldn’t make it a big deal. Some people are analytical, some people are relationship built, some people are structure and organization, some people are energy and just kind of just fun-going. But a fun-going kind of person speaking to an analytical person might have a miscommunication when they need to be able to confront each other. It’s almost always a good idea to remove yourself for, at least for a little bit, and try to look at the situation from the outside so you’re not emotionally involved and you’re not reacting just based on, you know, the little bit of information you have, or reacting based on emotion. Interpersonal skills, interpersonal communication, I think is key for humans. But definitely when it comes to being resilient, — trying to being able to see what’s actually going on, hear what’s actually going on, and then being able to dea with the people in a tense or stressful situation. It teaches us to show respect for the relationship and work together, okay to agree upon and collaborate with the solution that we’re both happy. So sometimes I think, with resiliency kinda forget the other
people that are involved with you and how to help them out. And I would say the same with like, you know, downrange going on a deployment. I might not be stressed, and I might not be, you know, having a lot of issues, but my team might. So a lot of times, it’s not maybe you. You also have to worry about your teammates or your significant other. And I would say, with my wife, I was not maybe helping her as much as I should’ve. She’s doing great, but I probably should’ve been more engaged with her even though I was doing okay. And I think that’s one thing I’ve learned is just don’t forget the other
people as much.