In this video we will talk about how when
we become upset, it is not the events taking place in our lives that upset us; but it is
our beliefs that cause us to become depressed, anxious, sad, etc. To illustrate this, we will be using a simple
ABC model developed by Dr. Albert Ellis: In this model:
(‘A�) refers to Activating event which means whatever it is that started things off: a
circumstance, another person�s behaviour or our own thoughts about something which
has happened. (‘B�) refers to our beliefs. These beliefs
can about ourselves, others, things, situation. Beliefs can be specific or generalised.
(‘C�) refers to the consequence i.e our reaction to (A) in terms of both emotions
and behaviours Let us take an example to understand this:
Say two boys have to make individual presentations in front of the same group. This will be the
first presentation that either of them have ever made and both of them have prepared well.
Yet the first boy at the time of presentation gets nervous, goes blank and his presentation
goes for a toss. Whereas the second boy is confident and makes the presentation effectively.
Both these boys were in exactly the same situations but their emotional and behavioural response
was different. For both the boys the activating event was
facing the audience. For the first boy the activating event triggered a belief that I
am not capable and not good enough which lead to the feeling of nervousness and poor presentation.
For the second boy the activating event triggered a belief that I am capable and good which
lead to the feeling of confidence and effective presentation. Once we understand our behaviour through the
ABC model, in order to create a positive change in our behaviour we can add a DE to the same.
D represents Disputing irrational beliefs E represents creating Effective new belief
Going back to the earlier example let us understand the application of D&E for the boy who got
nervous. So if we were to dispute the original belief
that I am not capable and not good in a way that we could break it along with creating
a effective new belief that I am capable and good, the boy would now begin to feel confident
which given the fact that he is well prepared will help him deliver effectively. I would like to end this video with a request
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