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INFJ vs. ISFJ: More Similar Than You Think?

September 23, 2019

– I just turned on the lava lamp here, so it’s not lava-ing yet. It hasn’t warmed up. Hopefully by the end it will. We’ll see. Keep an eye on it for you, will you? Ladies and gentlemen, welcome back to the Frank James channel, coming at you with a very important
video regarding typology, and two types that don’t get
enough comparison, I think. You hear a lot of people
who are out there, saying, “Oh, am I INFJ or INFP? “Am I INFJ or INTJ?” You rarely hear people
say, “Am I INFJ or ISFJ?” But I think this is a big mistake because these two types are
actually similar in many ways. Interestingly enough, if the statistics, the dubious statistics,
are to be believed, while we all know INFJ is the rarest type, woo-hoo, great, let’s throw a party, ISFJ is the most common personality type. It’s about 13 to 15% of the population, which is pretty sizeable
given that there are 16 types. So I think that’s why it’s important to compare INFJ to ISFJ, because I think there’s a lot of people who could benefit from
knowing the differences since there are a lot of you out there who may, may, may be ISFJ. I don’t know. I don’t know. So first of all, I said they
have a lot of similarities. Let’s look at some of those
similarities, first of all. Now, the biggest one is that they have the exact same middle functions. The second and third cognitive function in the cognitive stack
of these two types are both extroverted feeling
and introverted thinking. The two middle functions in a function stack are fairly balanced. Traditionally the second one is held to be the one that we favor more, but they are a lot more in balance than, say, the first and the fourth function. So when you’re looking at
someone’s two middle functions, you can say that they know how to go back and forth between them pretty well, and when we’re talking about feeling and thinking, what we’re really talking about, at
the core, is others and self. So extroverted feeling is
looking out at other people. Any extroverted judging
function is looking out at everyone else and trying to get the spectrum of what
everyone else thinks or feels. So with the INFJ and ISFJ, they both have extroverted feeling. They’re both looking
out at everybody else, looking at the feelings of everyone else. On the flip side of that, their third function is
introverted thinking, which is wrapped up in
identity and the self. It’s looking at, what are
my reasons for something? What are my logical
thoughts about this thing? So when those are your
two middle functions, you’re pretty good at balancing the two. You have a good balance of
yourself and other people. It allows you to see both sides
of an argument all the time and it allows you to take
things not so personally because you can put yourself in other people’s shoes pretty easily. It makes you basically not
so weird about other people. Whereas, if we can, for contrast’s sake, IPs and EJs, who have thinking or feeling at the top and bottom of their function stack, they’re way out of balance when it comes to self and others, so they’re
just weird about people. IJs, INFJs, ISFJs, we’re fine with people. We got ’em. Now, that leaves them imbalanced with the perceiving functions,
with intuition and sensing. Now, all IJs are gonna
be all about that base. No, organizing. All about limiting,
organizing, and control, if we can put it in a nutshell. The INFJ (coughs). So the INFJ has lead introverted intuition and is gonna be all about controlling in the abstract, controlling, organizing, limiting things down in the abstract. While the ISFJ is gonna be doing that same organization and over-control, but when it comes to the sensory, which is the real world,
the physical world around us, real facts and
figures, the hard numbers. Why don’t we stop really
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intuition and sensing. Their inferior functions are going to be extroverted perceiving functions. So for the INFJ, they have
inferior extroverted sensing, which I’ve talked about at length. You can click the card that’s gonna show up above my head to see a
video I made about that. ISFJs, on the other hand, have inferior extroverted intuition. These extroverted perceiving functions, both sensing and intuition, have to do with gathering in the new. So for extroverted
sensing, that’s gathering in new facts, new sensory data, new information, new
4-1-1, if you wanna be hip. Extroverted intuition is about gathering in new concepts and new patterns, or patt-a-rens, if you will. So INFJs are gonna have
a, they’re gonna be stuck in their head all the time. They’re gonna be introverted
intuition-ing away, and they’re gonna be ignoring
the extroverted sensing, the new gathering in
of sensory information. They’re just gonna be like, (retches) “Get that away from me. “Get the sensory away. “I don’t want new. “I just wanna stay up in intuition land “and look 10 years down the road.” Meanwhile, in failing to take
in new sensory information, you cause problems. The INFJ causes problems for him- or herself because they’re
just ignoring new info. They don’t want it. They wanna just stay with the
concept that they’re stuck on. ISFJs, they just wanna
stick with the facts that they know, and
they just wanna organize those facts over and over. They don’t want to gather a new concept. In a way intuition is
also about making guesses. It’s about projecting into the future. ISFJs, they don’t feel
comfortable doing that. They need more facts. They need to know more
sensory information. They don’t wanna make a freaking guess. They don’t wanna take in
another concept, a new concept. They hate that stuff. Now, this is why ISFJs are
stereotypically considered to be very traditional, because when you have the introverted sensing first, which makes you very much
care about the facts. You really respect the facts. What do we know already? What can we prove? Whereas the demon extroverted intuition, the inferior extroverted intuition, makes you closed off to any new concept. You’re like, “Nope, I know “the concepts I have are great. “We’re gonna stick with those. “No new concepts, thank you very much. “Keep ’em out of here. “Keep ’em out of my life.” Now, since we’re on stereotypes, the stereotypical ISFJ occupation is, as we all know, a nurse. Now, why is this? Why is this occupation
stereotypical for ISFJs? Well, it’s because their
lead function is SI, and so it’s very good at organizing. It’s very good at procedure. Nurses, they need to know all the steps to do different things. They need to be able to organize facts in the real world, in the physical world. We’re not talking about abstract stuff. We’re talking about, how many CCs of medicine do I have to put
into this guy’s butt right now? That’s SI stuff. And then, with the extroverted feeling, that’s caring about other people and their feeling state, but because it’s in the middle and
it’s pretty balanced, they’re not gonna freak out over people. They’re very good at staying calm with everyone else, taking care of them, but not taking things personally and either martyring themselves or looking too much at their own needs. Now, the stereotypical occupation for an INFJ might be
something like a monk, like some kind of Yoda figure. And actually, I have a book
that’s a Meyers-Briggs books. It’s kinda old. It’s from the ’80s. Hey, I’m from the ’80s too. I’m not that old. But it had statistics about occupations in it based on the types, and the INFJ, the top three occupations were monk, religion teacher, and priest. It was pretty strongly
about religious stuff. Now, I’m not saying INFJs
have to be religious, but what I’m saying is, the reason that that monk stereotype,
that Yoda stereotype, exists is because, yeah, we
have the extroverted feeling, just like the ISFJs, so we
wanna help other people, but not in the physical world. We don’t want to have to
take care of sick people. What we wanna do is help
them in the intuitive world, in the abstract world. So after I do any of these videos, there’s always people
in the comments, saying, “I’m more confused than ever. “I don’t know what type I am.” Please leave those comments for me. I appreciate it. Did the lava lamp heat up at all? Thanks so much for watching. Smash Like if you like this video. Make sure you subscribe if you wanna see more videos about Myers-Briggs,
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  • Reply Nico April 28, 2019 at 5:08 am

    This is so interesting because I can /feel/ almost literally everything you say about INFJs and our abstract thought process. Not having to deal with people in the physical world is one of the things that most stuck to me because it's so true, I don't want to help people on a material level I want them to think!!! I want to help people feel, philosophise, find their soul!!

  • Reply 20sandi12 May 12, 2019 at 1:14 am

    Thanks, FJ . You have a real gift of communicating so that people can KNOW that you KNOW. Your teachings have helped my marriage to get stronger thanks to "a-ha!" moments.

  • Reply Alice Sanderson May 14, 2019 at 7:38 am

    Ok I don't think I'm ISFJ, as I'm useless with sensory stuff. Now to work out between INFJ or INFP 🙂

  • Reply Andrea Bianco May 19, 2019 at 12:04 am

    “All about that bass” 😂 I love the deadpan delivery.

  • Reply makenzie c May 22, 2019 at 7:06 am

    i’m an infj who was mistyped as an isfj i was so confused over the past couple of days because isfj seemed really fitting until i did research and realized that it’s the way we think that make us completely different from isfjs

  • Reply Tua Fatima May 22, 2019 at 11:56 am

    4 years ago I was isfj but now mbti tells me I'm infj

  • Reply JamieMaybe May 25, 2019 at 2:45 am

    FUTURE VIDEO IDEA 🚨: When an INFJ becomes severely stessed (or any type really), we lean on our inferior function more. You can display lots of ISFJ traits this way too. When I first was introduced to Myer Briggs, I thought I was an ISFJ because of this. I was in a severely emotionally abusive relationship and I put forth as an ISFJ. Since I've left that and returned to my equilibrium, I put forth as INFJ. I'm making this long, revealing comment because doing a video on something like that would be important, enlightening, and also interesting. I was certainly taken back when I learned it myself since I didn't even know that could happen. THE PEOPLE NEED TO KNOW, FRANK.

  • Reply Soham Saha May 26, 2019 at 4:26 pm

    I'm an INFJ-A and I want to be a successful businessman but at the same time I want to be a reason for motivation and inspiration for other people and would love help them out…… I'm a bit confused about what should I do according to my career….. I'm under 18 but you can say I pretty much developed my extroverted sensing you talking about… will be very kind of you guys if you help me out about some career options for me…..

  • Reply B K May 28, 2019 at 10:41 pm

    Great basic break down between infj and isfj. Thanks for your vids…Your thoughts and ponderings are fun to watch and give me the opportunity in my own little pea brain to feel normal. Just your new hairstyles alone keep me watching. P.S. I promise to remain cool and attractive.

  • Reply Smull Hat Bear May 31, 2019 at 7:08 pm

    So as an INFJ married to an ISFJ there are 10 stark differences. 🐟🐠 We are honestly loving soul mates and the best pair: ying and yang ♾
    1. ISFJ will have various mechanical tools organized & drawn out on the shop wall; INFJ don’t have tools, they have paint brushes & one screwdriver.
    2. ISFJ have impressive time management; INFJ are amazing at losing time after reading a multitude of articles about how Bonobo matriarch systems function. 🐵
    3. ISFJ enjoy the same meals at the same restaurant with the same hot sauce; INFJ will try anything: especially if dared 😅
    4. ISFJ enjoy viewing historical documentaries and men especially sports live so they can continually yell at the tv; INFJ enjoy viewing fantasies or disappear in a labyrinth of SCI-FI.
    5. ISFJ barely ever cry and don’t want to waste valuable time on a nonsense emotion; INFJ will cry over watching a struggling caterpillar trying to climb over a street curb to lush freedom!! 🐛
    6. ISFJ will only help others when it’s essential; INFJ will help and love helping until mental exhaustion then disappear for three days or possibly a week…
    7. ISFJ thrive in monotony; INFJ’s kryptonite is monotony- despise monotony- will sing lyrical ditties of “I hate monotony…”
    8. ISFJ start to panic when clutter accumulates; INFJ are strong starters but not finishers- so clutter of dead visions are everywhere!!
    9. ISFJ dislike crowds of people, obnoxious noise, putrid smells anything they can’t control; INFJ also dislike crowds, obnoxious noise, putrid smells anything they can’t control but are too curious not to investigate. 🔎
    10. ISFJ have a tendency to not be ‘artistic’ or ‘creative’ in a sense; INFJ are super creative BUT no one will ever know because they procrastinate and question their gifts. 🤣

    Hope you enjoyed; it’s truly a blessed partnership, he’s very supportive and my best friend 💕

  • Reply Carina Eschmann June 2, 2019 at 6:50 am

    😀 Love your descriptions of the Functions and how they work together ^^ Thx so much
    Now a I gotta do is analise my own behaviour a bit more… ^^'

  • Reply Angie Rival June 2, 2019 at 10:44 am

    My neighbour is ISFJ and such a sweetie. I just forwarded this on to her. Funny – I'm the nurse but in mental health. I like to help people but not 'hands on' lol, so mental health nursing is perfect. My neighbour is in a care role too!!

  • Reply Kimba Shae June 3, 2019 at 7:48 am

    Very Helpful! I'm an INFJ and my sister is an ISFJ. This really helped me understand her better and also learn that there are thing we have in common 🙂

  • Reply Lorri June 8, 2019 at 12:46 pm

    I hope you can help. My mum died nearly five years ago. We were like best friends. I didn’t know much about MBTI then and have since thought she was either an INFJ or ISFJ, but every time I think ‘yep, that’s her’, on either type, something comes up as not applying. She was very much like you described as ISFJ, but also very much like INFJ. Is there any way for me to get a little closer to knowing. Obviously it’s not essential but I’d like to know as we were closer than your average mum and daughter. Still think about her every single day. 🙁
    From ENFP. X

  • Reply rareraspberry June 8, 2019 at 3:09 pm

    I think the reason this topic is not often discussed is because both types use Ti. When I first got into MBTI, I found a huge amount content regarding INTJ vs ISTJ. It became a serious consideration for me. Which of these groups (that someone else has made) do I fit into? It's a very Te thing. Because of the Ti, the INFJ and ISFJs aren't really bothered to care about this.

  • Reply i n June 8, 2019 at 7:05 pm

    I got the ISFJ result a lot, but a couple of times I got INFJ. I never related to neither of them, until I read about INFP and realized this was my type even though I never got it as a result.

  • Reply Alice Bennett June 9, 2019 at 5:22 am

    All about the bass ah yeah lol I'm an Isfj you're very funny💖

  • Reply Yellow_Daffodil June 9, 2019 at 9:14 am

    shades of DaveSuperPowers

  • Reply Blake Downs June 9, 2019 at 2:27 pm

    I've tested as all IFs, and before I finally settled on ISFP, I thought for a minute I was an ISFJ.

  • Reply randomchick100 June 10, 2019 at 5:25 am

    I'm literally an IN/SFJ. My N and S are basically tied. Overall, I relate much more to INFJ, but occasionally there's a thing that I'm DEFINITELY ISFJ instead.

  • Reply Joanne Angel June 10, 2019 at 12:19 pm

    More MBTI vids please. I love the dating and job interview ones. I'm an ISFJ

  • Reply Amanda Langley June 12, 2019 at 7:12 am

    I work with a few infj and I am one… And we work in a group home with people. Idk about 'sick' but they are disabled.

  • Reply Rebecca Jungkooksaid June 12, 2019 at 9:46 am

    3am. As an INTP I find this utterly logically unnecessary to be watching this video rn.. but here I am Bruh.

  • Reply Amy T June 14, 2019 at 12:04 pm

    Holistic health practitioner/energy healer for Infj 🙂

  • Reply Lelah S June 15, 2019 at 4:23 am

    What an amazing video!! I'm an ISFJ nearly always mistyped as an INFJ, and I just wrote an accidental essay on how much I loved this and how much it made me think. Somehow, though I accidentally typed a command to exit the browser, and I'm frankly devastated, so I'll try to sum up. In short—thank you for another wonderful vid! You've summed up the main similarities and differences with eloquence and ease—and with minimal intuitive bias! That's always really nice to see.

    I do think a lot of INFJ stereotypes apply to ISFJs, too, which leads a lot of people to lean towards INFJ (in addition to the bias). I'm always lost in my head; however, although I don't shy away from intriguing concepts or my imagination, the way my brain functions without any prompting is to connect what I'm processing now with an infinite network of specific memories, leading me to something completely different. And ISFJs often struggle to be in the moment, but because of an inferior-Ne crisis creator ("What if this goes wrong? What if that goes wrong? What if I mess this up?") rather than inferior Se.

    I can't even be mad about the traditional stereotype, as so many ISFJs follow convention, but my philosophy (one that I've seen in quite a few fellow ISFJs!) is to analyze our current systems, understand how we arrived here, and then change what we know doesn't work—i.e. what causes harm and hurt to others. As a member of a couple marginalized communities and an ally to others, it's very important to me to say, "We've seen this cause pain; we know it doesn't work. We need to make a change." I'm guided by the past, for sure, but that past guides me to make a better future, and a better present as well.

    I guess I just wrote a slightly shorter essay, but really—awesome job! These videos are truly fantastic. Love your content!

  • Reply Lucy H June 15, 2019 at 7:00 am

    I'm INFP, but sometimes type as ISFJ lately. I first typed as INFJ though, hm 🙂 Feel INFP at heart, and ISFJ to cope with hard things such as craving structure ^^ hehe

  • Reply QueenRina June 16, 2019 at 4:15 am

    I'm an INFJ and my best friend is an ISFJ and we are similar. She is my ride or die lol good to know why we get along so well!

  • Reply Nicole Judge June 16, 2019 at 5:36 pm

    So wild to me that infj is the rarest and isfj is the most common – online, it seems like infjs are everywhere and I never really see other isfjs. But again, that's just online. P.s. isfj here lol woo 🙌

  • Reply Tabitha Asiedu-Gyamfi June 18, 2019 at 12:33 pm

    You are probably the most relatable INFJ I've ever encountered. Your content is GOLD. Thanks. Really Appreciate.

  • Reply Magu Brain June 19, 2019 at 10:52 am

    I want to be a ISFJ, sounds pretty cool.

  • Reply Agnes Fon Marten June 19, 2019 at 5:12 pm

    My grandma is an ISFJ and [drumroll] a nurse. Couldn’t get more cliché.

  • Reply Beliz W. June 19, 2019 at 7:02 pm

    Haha i am at college, studying social work and it's great, theoretically. I love how we analyse people and the society. The Concepts and Methods of social work are pretty interesting and nice and give me new inspiration. But what should work after my Bachelorthesis? I really don't know, because real problems and real people are stressing me out really fast 😂

  • Reply readjournallove June 19, 2019 at 8:21 pm

    Hey FJ! Could you talk about INFJ vs ENFJ? I always test ambivert and can’t figure out which I am.

  • Reply USA Gal June 23, 2019 at 3:02 pm

    Why are you so funny???😄Anyone else catch themselves becoming more facially animated just listening to FJ videos???🙃

  • Reply Mercedez Anderson June 23, 2019 at 5:13 pm

    Awesome video! Please do ESFJ vs ENFJ soon 🙂

  • Reply Morgan La Batt June 23, 2019 at 6:13 pm

    I used to come out as ISFJ when I was younger. Now I come out as INFJ. 🤷‍♀️

  • Reply ella reese June 25, 2019 at 11:42 am

    i have been forever wondering if i’m an INFJ or ISFJ

  • Reply Laura Laura June 26, 2019 at 6:55 pm

    I am so confused. I was sure I was an INFP by the traits I have, but took a test just now ( twice) where I'm an ISFJ. I don't think the test was accurate, I had only 2 possible answers. WTF ?? Is there any other way to connect with you, besides youtube ?

  • Reply crshia June 27, 2019 at 5:01 pm

    It's funny – I'm an INFJ female and the ISFJ female is a personality I just don't blend with easily. I don't find subjects to talk about easily, and they are incredibly nice but are always trying to put me inside a box and are telling me where I can and cannot speak/act/influence in society. They are always super nice in the way they say it – they think I'm just ignorant. "You know, it was nice that you could feel free to speak up at that meeting, but really, only the top managers should speak." I don't observe any of the ISFJ female rules and really don't understand them. They have a self-consciousness in social situations that I just don't have. But they are some of the most caring and assisting people (nurses) and I appreciate them!

  • Reply Alpha Cygni June 27, 2019 at 10:06 pm

    I'm an INFJ and my best friend is an ISFJ: after watching this video I've got finally lot of things figured out! 😀

  • Reply T A June 28, 2019 at 7:07 am

    I think INFJ+ISFJ is the best fit (excluding INFJ+INFJ – I'm not sure about that).

  • Reply krla stmyr June 28, 2019 at 3:45 pm

    "I'm more confused than ever, I don't know what type I am."

    I took another test yesterday, turned out ISFJ. But I am certain I am INFJ 🤔

  • Reply HAPPYSMILE June 29, 2019 at 3:38 am

    I hate how this is pinning me over and over, nursing was my major. Then what you'd call a "monk" was the next goal but life happens fast at 32. Nice

  • Reply Angela M June 29, 2019 at 2:39 pm

    Thank you so much for making a video about this! My S and N were super close when I took the test (but S ultimately came out on top) and it took so much time dredging up information from the depths of the internet to figure out that I'm truly an ISFJ and not an INFJ.

  • Reply J J June 30, 2019 at 1:33 am

    I don't know if I am an INFJ, INFP, ISFJ. I want to be an ISFJ because I love the idea of being traditional and productive, having a well cared for home and life. But I'm often stuck in my head and struggle to accomplish things I want to do.

  • Reply Jaclyn Ortega June 30, 2019 at 6:02 am

    Totally agree. I'm an INFJ and my dad is an ISFJ. While we get along well but I can clearly see our differences. He keeps on telling me to stop living in my own world and instead focus in the real world

  • Reply loser lane July 1, 2019 at 2:47 am

    I took the test and I got ISFJ-T

  • Reply Julianne Briscoe July 1, 2019 at 5:16 am

    I took two tests and got one of each of these.

  • Reply J M J July 2, 2019 at 6:26 am

    INFJ married to ISFJ for 14 years. We see when the other is mentally exhausted or strained and take over. We are alike enough to be great compliments but different enough to take over when we see the other is weak.

  • Reply TheCherrytree123 July 2, 2019 at 12:23 pm

    I am infj. now I know my dad isfj. His occupation was engineer. and force me to study engineering because job, money & security. I am passion about science and meditation. No, I am not attract to isfj. We will not work out as friends or partner.

  • Reply Cynthia Marie July 4, 2019 at 4:29 am

    A few years back i had come up as a INFJ…n i feel like ive switched a lil so i re did the test..n now it says ISFJ
    I think its accurate n ppl do change
    Im happy with it
    I admire both

  • Reply Alyssa McCall July 6, 2019 at 12:35 am

    So much on point! I thoroughly enjoy watching your videos Frank. This is one of my new favorites. I’m an INFP with an ISFJ husband and a good friend who is INFJ. I love them both very much and based on my experience with them, you have nailed some of their major qualities. My husband keeps me grounded with his focus on facts and figures. My friend, who used to be a missionary, feeds my interest in spiritual/personal growth. If you have more to share about similarities or differences between them, I’d love to hear. Thanks!

  • Reply KMaggi 3 July 12, 2019 at 6:46 am

    I've taken 4 different tests. Two said I was an INFJ and two said that I was an ISFJ. I'm certainly not a MONK. All I'm truly sure about is the 99-100% Introvert part! lol.

  • Reply Alison Brockbank July 14, 2019 at 2:53 pm

    On ‘16 personalities’ I am an INFJ-T but on ‘personality hacker’ I’m an ISFJ. I relate to both. I’m very confused. I’m too much of a details person that appreciates my surroundings to be a true INFJ but I don’t like spending the time around people enough to be an ISFJ.

  • Reply pollovy July 14, 2019 at 10:32 pm

    Do you think you could make a video where you explain the four main functions and how to determine them for the types? Like extroverted feeling etc. I cant seem to find an explanation for those online and you got it all figured out 😩👌

  • Reply Jenny Hart July 16, 2019 at 6:45 pm

    I'm kind of in the middle of the both – sometimes I get INFJ (but I'm not sure I am) while sometimes I get ISFJ, but I think I'm too selfish

  • Reply Sio Loz July 16, 2019 at 7:43 pm

    Love your humor and videos!

  • Reply Heydi Chamale July 17, 2019 at 3:43 am

    For a while, I was pissed off because I took the personality test and was told I am an INFJ. However, when looking at the suggested career options, I hated each occupation. So, I took another test focused on work ethic and career interests. I was told I am an ISFJ. And, I became more confused than ever. Finally, I realized that as a regular human being not being forced to work, I am a true INFJ. At work, I prefer the hard numbers and facts, which would make me more of an ISFJ… That’s what I concluded. I’m still not 100% sure though.

  • Reply Larea92503 July 17, 2019 at 6:03 am

    I have always been intrigued by this subject, and frankly I am confused. I get INFJ or ISFJ pretty equally. When online testing shows percentages I am nearly equal in sensing and intuition. I do strive to think and behave logically because I perceive that as more admirable and reliable. However, at my core, I am constantly a swirl of thoughts and emotions.

  • Reply Melissa Phillis July 17, 2019 at 10:00 am

    Thank you for this vid….i am definitely an INFJ, would love to never have to remember to eat, clean or pay bills whilst arting, writing, singing or gardening instead. My pet hate is my child asking "what's for dinner"……Lol (although I HAVE to make sure all of that is done before I get a chance to let myself do my dreaming)

  • Reply LiveFree 42 July 21, 2019 at 8:53 pm

    I can’t decide which one I am

  • Reply Ute Reinhard July 22, 2019 at 4:00 am

    that IS a beautiful print……love the fox in the woods…..

  • Reply Ludvik Isnes July 23, 2019 at 4:48 am

    someone has said to me (i think you might be reborn Jesus) i just had to put it out there as he said INFJs could be something like Yoda

  • Reply Ryan caleb July 25, 2019 at 4:50 am

    I'm learning i'm an INFJ, but I can be quite dominant, controlling and a great public speaker. When I was younger, I was extremely shy, but when I was 18-19 after a bad break up I got into the self development. I would reach out out to strangers in the street, talk to women at bars, and got a sales job where I had to cold call 100 strangers per day. Of course, this was totally unnatural to me and If you are an INFJ, you can you probably understand how hard this was, and mentally draining for an introvert. It's true that you always revert back to your nature, but I learned how to take charge in meetings, speak up and be a leader rather then an agreeable follower

  • Reply Jay Day July 25, 2019 at 7:40 pm

    That sweatshirt is fresh af tho

  • Reply midnight15086 July 25, 2019 at 8:03 pm

    The 4th function isn't the demon function, the demon function is the very last function your brain can use, at the bottom of the "shadow" function stack. It's the demon function because it's the only one that can truly take the place of and stand in for your dominant function, because it has the same direction as the dominant function (introverted or extraverted) and same purpose as well (judging or perceiving). If your dominant function is an introverted perceiving function e.g. introverted intuition, your demon function will be the only other introverted perceiving function that exists under Myers Briggs- introverted sensing.

  • Reply Mia Vida July 25, 2019 at 11:07 pm

    If you are wondering what's up with the psuedo subliminal message, idk, buy it says [Voice going up and pause for no reason] :41

  • Reply Victoria Hemingway July 26, 2019 at 1:06 am

    I’m an INFJ married to an ISFJ and we butt heads constantly.

  • Reply U A July 26, 2019 at 1:42 pm

    According to the test I took recently, it seems like I am ISFJ. BUT, I have taken the same test multiple times in previous years and I had other results. I can say that none of my results were the same. The only thing never changes is that I've never been in the Diplomats group and never been extroverted (as far as I remember). Is my personality changing all the time or do I have a meta-personality (lol) that fits all or none?

  • Reply C Brunk July 26, 2019 at 6:54 pm

    I am glade you did this video. So apon first finding out about these personalities I took the test and was told I was INFJ then I took a few more to be sure and they all said the same thing. However later I took another that said I was ISFJ. This left me confused. After going further and further down the rabbit hole I feel like I might be INFJ with ISFJ tenancies. What I mean Is like I have a very vivid imagination and emotions that I tend to rule my life with and yet at times I can be very analytical. Resorting to looking at the facts and dismissing my own feelings. I also find myself second guessing my own feelings all the time. And yet when watching the videos I tend to relate more to INFJ's rather than ISFJ's. I was even told recently I had Demon SE, What are your thoughts on that? Could that be possible?

  • Reply animals dance to music July 28, 2019 at 8:50 am

    Huh? People often say am I an ISFJ or INFJ but not in the INFJ groups since they'd know that people would call them an ISFJ. The concept of being outed as a sensor often seems too much for grown adults to handle.

  • Reply Jennifer Grove July 29, 2019 at 2:00 am

    Can you do one on MBTI types and trauma making them seem different? (If that's a real thing.)

  • Reply Zhaylin Black July 30, 2019 at 5:09 pm

    Indeed. I don't really know what the heck my type is any more lol. I thought I was an INFP. Others thought I was an ISFP. I've been pro typed as both an ISTJ and an ISFJ. Who knows 😀

  • Reply My Turkish Life August 2, 2019 at 2:26 pm

    I'm infj and my girlfriend is isfj been together for 16years

  • Reply Ivan Anil August 4, 2019 at 10:23 pm

    I m infj but I am not a MONK ,btw aren't u infj too

  • Reply Aspergers versus Neurotypicals August 7, 2019 at 9:03 pm

    infj, teaching buddhism. yep. stereotypical me.

  • Reply amziedragon August 8, 2019 at 6:37 pm

    My Mam is an ISFJ and I'm an INFJ so these similarities and differences really make sense. We always get each other when we say we have a feeling about people and are both good at understanding personalities 😀

  • Reply Anna Brown August 9, 2019 at 2:17 am

    Thank you so much for this video! Now I know for sure I'm ISFJ 😁

  • Reply Amy Candelario August 11, 2019 at 12:23 am

    Hi Frank! First i just want to say how eye opening your videos have been for me. I'm a new subscriber and i am hooked! I am also an INFJ. Your humor is on point as well! 😂 I like these comparisons of other personalities. I have a question that im not even sure you can answer, but like I mentioned, I am an INFJ. I have a 10 year old daughter who is almost my complete opposite. I know she is too young to completely identify as a certain type, but to me, she's pretty readable. I believe she is an ESFP. We clash so much, but i love and sometimes hate her personality. I want her to be herself but i have a hard time understanding why she is the way she is. If you have any videos on how to deal with these extroverted type, that would be just amazing!!!! Thank you again for all of these, and for putting yourself out there so you may help others! ✌🏼👍🏼👍🏼👍🏼

  • Reply Miserable Cow August 11, 2019 at 3:19 am

    So many different guitars in your various video backgrounds. How many guitars do you have? Do you sell them sometimes and get different ones or do you have, like 15 instruments? And where are they all when they aren’t in the shot? I would watch a video of you showing each of your guitars and the stories of how you acquired each one.

  • Reply L.O.V.E Diniz August 23, 2019 at 3:07 pm

    Could I be both? I am weird inside and out pretty much, lol! I am a monknurse!

  • Reply Danielle Marie August 24, 2019 at 12:13 pm

    I'm on the borderline of Sensing 54% and Intuition 46%. Base on the test I've taken, I can be an INFJ and ISFJ depending on the situation…

  • Reply Laila Manzana August 25, 2019 at 2:26 am

    All about that bass. 😂 After that I couldn't be focussed.

  • Reply Nagev August 25, 2019 at 9:55 pm

    My goodness,… I told my family i wanted to become a monk when i was a kid, then a priest early twenties, then I converted to buddhism, minimalism and becoming vegan and studied lots of science things. I am now a science teacher that has survived not giving up (because of my current school that has given me freedom to teach and express my ideas about science, environment and pollution through my lessons and science clubs). I aim to educate not for the science facts only but for the citizenship and for developing a good and caring humanity. I read lots of psychology and I practice mindfulness and letting go/be day by day to justify why there has been absolutely no meaning to what ever I have done so far. Meaning is my main visualisation and goal in life, I hope I find it soon. (I thought of deleting everything – too much private info, but somehow I let it go here in the INFJ community).Thanks for your detailed insights both intellectually and physically (i.e. gestures, eyes, etc).

  • Reply alenajingle August 30, 2019 at 6:02 am

    I'm an INFJ, my husband of 10 years is ISFJ. Whenever I take the 16personalities, I always border on the N/S, even though I always get INFJ, but it's weird to me cause if anything I feel like I relate more to infps than isfjs. When people first meet me and my husband, they think we are way different from each other, and usually assume I'm very extroverted, but my husband and I have always gotten along so so easily and see eye-to-eye on so so many things. But it's strange cuz I mean on paper we have very little in common. I don't know I'm just rambling LOL. I think I'm going to make him watch this video

  • Reply dirtywhitellama August 31, 2019 at 3:58 pm

    I'm more confused than ever, am I actually an INTP and I'm just so confused?? 😱

  • Reply Steve Davenport September 2, 2019 at 3:06 am

    I always feel an instant connection with ISFJs, as an INFJ. Also, they never call me out on my weirdness.

  • Reply M.C. Panda September 2, 2019 at 4:42 am

    As an INFJ with an ISFJ mom, hell yes this is what it's like. Recently we argued over a matter bc she sticks to facts of the matter but I actually work toward concepts like "so what can we do about it now that would subtley impact the situation positively?" But my mom just kept repeating the facts without ever thinking to actually take action, thinking letting time pass would do it bc we aren't directly involved (guess due to past experiences), but I can clearly see there is at least one or two things that can be done for time to be a catalyst for the situation to improve more effectively. [This is a situation dealing with people]

  • Reply Sapphire September 3, 2019 at 9:43 pm

    I've taken the Myers-Briggs test quite a few times and I keep getting either INFJ or ISFJ

  • Reply La Vie September 7, 2019 at 10:50 pm

    Know your personality type!!!

  • Reply Sebastian September 9, 2019 at 3:19 pm

    Do they leave relationships like INFJs?

  • Reply Michael Cornelius September 10, 2019 at 10:48 am

    I fucking knew it I'm Yoda

  • Reply Chantel Wensley September 13, 2019 at 5:37 am

    You are stardust… yes… an alien.. I’m saying this in the most endearing way. You’re humor gets me haha. “411-if you wanna be hip” And I really enjoy how you broke this down and looked at it at a totally new way! I’ve been able to adopt my Se good enough to get through life… mind you, I put the wrong lunch kit into the wrong kids back pack today. Sooo … Si is very foreign to me, the only disconnect I tend to have with isfjs. Ps when is your birthday ?

  • Reply Rania September 13, 2019 at 3:28 pm

    the first test i took when in highschool tell that im infj. and when i entered the college and took that test again, i got isfj. and few weeks ago i tried another similliar test and i got infj😳 it makes me confused as hell😭

  • Reply Hal Jo September 14, 2019 at 6:39 pm

    I feel stuck! Sometimes I get ISFJ or INFJ. I sometimes feel like I am both a S and N at the same time.

  • Reply elnara1 September 17, 2019 at 11:19 am

    It’s not that ISFJs don’t like new information. We accept new information if it has evidence and purpose. So before considering some new theory I say “Okay, the theory is not bad but does it have empirical evidence? Was it proven to be effective in the physical world?” And moreover “ Is it gonna be socially significant?” I wouldn’t call ISFJs “traditional”. Systematic – yes.
    We don’t like changes if it’s not gonna do good to people. Would I like to have a clone? No. I mean, what’s the purpose? Would I like to see in the streets more electric cars – yes. I think that was a brilliantly developed idea that was PRACTICAL and SOCIALLY SIGNIFICANT.

  • Reply Gebrael93 September 17, 2019 at 4:30 pm

    omg that is so true its the details that matter to the isfj, that is what makes them good nurses its all about the details the dosage of medicine, the pathophysiology of diabetes how much calories, what time specifically to give this medication…its all detail oriented…….focusing on the ….trees in the forest………..caring for ppl in the "real world" while INFJ is more to do with the metaphysical aspects of things…how people think…and their spiritual well being…….that is why they are like a therapist, of a monk or counselor…..they deal with the idea of the person rather than the person itself….another great career for infj is environmental scientist or ecologist because….its literally focusing on the forest..the world itself rather than the little details. I went to school for nursing but I always felt a little off. Now i know why thanks FJ. lol

  • Reply Evelyn Promenchenkel September 18, 2019 at 3:19 pm

    I am a isfj and I'm a program assistant at the local senior community center I love it

  • Reply stacie hancock September 21, 2019 at 6:11 am

    Husband infj-a I'm isfj-a what does this mean?

  • Reply Michelle VandenBergh September 21, 2019 at 9:52 pm

    My sister is an ISFJ and I’m an INFJ. There are some similarities like our Fe and Ti but the stark difference of our first functions, her Si (tradition, what’s known, past) inhibits my Ni (future, exploration, novelty).

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