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How to fix a broken heart | Guy Winch

September 26, 2019


At some point in our lives, almost every one of us
will have our heart broken. My patient Kathy planned her wedding
when she was in middle school. She would meet her future husband by age 27, get engaged a year later and get married a year after that. But when Kathy turned 27,
she didn’t find a husband. She found a lump in her breast. She went through many months
of harsh chemotherapy and painful surgeries, and then just as she was ready
to jump back into the dating world, she found a lump in her other breast and had to do it all over again. Kathy recovered, though, and she was eager to resume
her search for a husband as soon as her eyebrows grew back in. When you’re going
on first dates in New York City, you need to be able to express
a wide range of emotions. (Laughter) Soon afterwards,
she met Rich and fell in love. The relationship was everything
she hoped it would be. Six months later, after a lovely weekend in New England, Rich made reservations
at their favorite romantic restaurant. Kathy knew he was going to propose, and she could barely
contain her excitement. But Rich did not propose
to Kathy that night. He broke up with her. As deeply as he cared
for Kathy — and he did — he simply wasn’t in love. Kathy was shattered. Her heart was truly broken,
and she now faced yet another recovery. But five months after the breakup, Kathy still couldn’t stop
thinking about Rich. Her heart was still very much broken. The question is: Why? Why was this incredibly strong
and determined woman unable to marshal the same
emotional resources that got her through four years
of cancer treatments? Why do so many of us flounder when we’re trying
to recover from heartbreak? Why do the same coping mechanisms that get us through all kinds
of life challenges fail us so miserably
when our heart gets broken? In over 20 years of private practice, I have seen people
of every age and background face every manner of heartbreak, and what I’ve learned is this: when your heart is broken, the same instincts you ordinarily rely on will time and again lead you
down the wrong path. You simply cannot trust
what your mind is telling you. For example, we know from studies
of heartbroken people that having a clear understanding
of why the relationship ended is really important
for our ability to move on. Yet time and again, when we are offered a simple
and honest explanation like the one Rich offered Kathy, we reject it. Heartbreak creates
such dramatic emotional pain, our mind tells us the cause
must be equally dramatic. And that gut instinct is so powerful, it can make even the most reasonable
and measured of us come up with mysteries
and conspiracy theories where none exist. Kathy became convinced
something must have happened during her romantic getaway with Rich that soured him on the relationship, and she became obsessed
with figuring out what that was. And so she spent countless hours going through every minute
of that weekend in her mind, searching her memory for clues
that were not there. Kathy’s mind tricked her
into initiating this wild goose chase. But what compelled her to commit to it
for so many months? Heartbreak is far more insidious
than we realize. There is a reason we keep going
down one rabbit hole after another, even when we know it’s going
to make us feel worse. Brain studies have shown that the withdrawal of romantic love activates the same mechanisms
in our brain that get activated when addicts are withdrawing
from substances like cocaine or opioids. Kathy was going through withdrawal. And since she could not have
the heroin of actually being with Rich, her unconscious mind chose
the methadone of her memories with him. Her instincts told her
she was trying to solve a mystery, but what she was actually doing was getting her fix. This is what makes heartbreak
so difficult to heal. Addicts know they’re addicted. They know when they’re shooting up. But heartbroken people do not. But you do now. And if your heart is broken,
you cannot ignore that. You have to recognize that,
as compelling as the urge is, with every trip down memory lane,
every text you send, every second you spend
stalking your ex on social media, you are just feeding your addiction, deepening your emotional pain and complicating your recovery. Getting over heartbreak is not a journey. It’s a fight, and your reason
is your strongest weapon. There is no breakup explanation
that’s going to feel satisfying. No rationale can take away
the pain you feel. So don’t search for one,
don’t wait for one, just accept the one you were offered
or make up one yourself and then put the question to rest, because you need that closure
to resist the addiction. And you need something else as well: you have to be willing to let go, to accept that it’s over. Otherwise, your mind
will feed on your hope and set you back. Hope can be incredibly destructive
when your heart is broken. Heartbreak is a master manipulator. The ease with which it gets our mind
to do the absolute opposite of what we need in order to recover is remarkable. One of the most common tendencies
we have when our heart is broken is to idealize the person who broke it. We spend hours remembering their smile, how great they made us feel, that time we hiked up the mountain
and made love under the stars. All that does is make our loss
feel more painful. We know that. Yet we still allow our mind to cycle
through one greatest hit after another, like we were being held hostage by our own
passive-aggressive Spotify playlist. (Laughter) Heartbreak will make those thoughts
pop into your mind. And so to avoid idealizing,
you have to balance them out by remembering their frown,
not just their smile, how bad they made you feel, the fact that after the lovemaking,
you got lost coming down the mountain, argued like crazy
and didn’t speak for two days. What I tell my patients
is to compile an exhaustive list of all the ways
the person was wrong for you, all the bad qualities, all the pet peeves, and then keep it on your phone. (Laughter) And once you have your list, you have to use it. When I hear even a hint of idealizing or the faintest whiff
of nostalgia in a session, I go, “Phone, please.” (Laughter) Your mind will try to tell you
they were perfect. But they were not,
and neither was the relationship. And if you want to get over them,
you have to remind yourself of that, frequently. None of us is immune to heartbreak. My patient Miguel was a 56-year-old
senior executive in a software company. Five years after his wife died, he finally felt ready
to start dating again. He soon met Sharon, and a whirlwind romance ensued. They introduced each other
to their adult children after one month, and they moved in together after two. When middle-aged people date,
they don’t mess around. It’s like “Love, Actually”
meets “The Fast and the Furious.” (Laughter) Miguel was happier
than he had been in years. But the night before
their first anniversary, Sharon left him. She had decided to move to the West Coast
to be closer to her children, and she didn’t want
a long-distance relationship. Miguel was totally blindsided
and utterly devastated. He barely functioned at work
for many, many months, and he almost lost his job as a result. Another consequence of heartbreak
is that feeling alone and in pain can significantly impair
our intellectual functioning, especially when performing complex tasks
involving logic and reasoning. It temporarily lowers our IQ. But it wasn’t just the intensity
of Miguel’s grief that confused his employers; it was the duration. Miguel was confused by this as well and really quite embarrassed by it. “What’s wrong with me?”
he asked me in our session. “What adult spends almost a year
getting over a one-year relationship?” Actually, many do. Heartbreak shares all the hallmarks
of traditional loss and grief: insomnia, intrusive thoughts, immune system dysfunction. Forty percent of people experience
clinically measurable depression. Heartbreak is a complex
psychological injury. It impacts us in a multitude of ways. For example, Sharon was both very social and very active. She had dinners at the house every week. She and Miguel went on camping trips
with other couples. Although Miguel was not religious, he accompanied Sharon
to church every Sunday, where he was welcomed
into the congregation. Miguel didn’t just lose his girlfriend; he lost his entire social life, the supportive community
of Sharon’s church. He lost his identity as a couple. Now, Miguel recognized the breakup
had left this huge void in his life, but what he failed to recognize is that it left far more than just one. And that is crucial, not just because it explains
why heartbreak could be so devastating, but because it tells us how to heal. To fix your broken heart, you have to identify these voids
in your life and fill them, and I mean all of them. The voids in your identity: you have to reestablish who you are
and what your life is about. The voids in your social life, the missing activities,
even the empty spaces on the wall where pictures used to hang. But none of that will do any good unless you prevent the mistakes
that can set you back, the unnecessary searches for explanations, idealizing your ex instead of focusing
on how they were wrong for you, indulging thoughts and behaviors
that still give them a starring role in this next chapter of your life when they shouldn’t be an extra. Getting over heartbreak is hard, but if you refuse to be misled
by your mind and you take steps to heal, you can significantly minimize
your suffering. And it won’t just be you
who benefit from that. You’ll be more present with your friends, more engaged with your family, not to mention the billions of dollars
of compromised productivity in the workplace that could be avoided. So if you know someone who is heartbroken, have compassion, because social support has been found
to be important for their recovery. And have patience, because it’s going to take them longer
to move on than you think it should. And if you’re hurting, know this: it’s difficult, it is a battle
within your own mind, and you have to be diligent to win. But you do have weapons. You can fight. And you will heal. Thank you. (Applause)

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100 Comments

  • Reply Atmik Shetty September 12, 2019 at 3:48 pm

    Best words I have ever heard 😁

  • Reply Alessandro Vacciano September 12, 2019 at 6:04 pm

    How can you let go a person you still see and making love with? I can see she don't feel the same thing as before , she used to always kiss me now i gotta bag for one or i have to kiss her, "i don't wanna lose you but i don't know if We could ever Be together like We was" its so destructive and painful

  • Reply Random Naia September 12, 2019 at 8:02 pm

    If you hurting, know this : it’s a battle whitin your own mind, and you have diligent to win but you do have weapons.. you can fight and you will heal 💛

  • Reply Blue Sky September 13, 2019 at 9:30 am

    Have You Ever Been In Love ? i doubt it… who cares if it takes time to get over someone… Being in real Love is amazing, and Heartbreak is part of the cycle, as is death. Should we just get over death ? Heartbreak is similar to a death and needs time for grieving. Some of us have more emotion. You clearly dontl i cant finish watching this… bye bye

  • Reply J C September 13, 2019 at 11:27 am

    :/

  • Reply KeshaKee87 September 13, 2019 at 1:37 pm

    I feel like I cant breathe

  • Reply badritual423 September 13, 2019 at 4:02 pm

    I’m so broken from her. Betrayed. Inept. Worthless. You said youd never leave me. I gave you everything. My heart. Undying devotion. And you just threw me away. I hate you for for giving me false reassurances, but I hate myself more for giving you a piece of my heart. A piece I’ll never get back. You said goodbye at the airport. I didn’t deserve that. Love doesn’t leave like that. I deserved a better goodbye.

  • Reply Christy Tran September 13, 2019 at 5:07 pm

    It sucks being so emotionally invested in anyone or anything…

    Best thing you can do is to prioritize yourself. Do everything you do for yourself and not the human who’s broken your heart ❤️ Unfortunately there’s no immediate cure to a broken heart, but we can make it less painful day by day.

  • Reply MiNe ChaNNeL September 13, 2019 at 6:39 pm

    Sleeping with your eyes wet every night is not easy

  • Reply Curious Brain September 13, 2019 at 8:30 pm

    I learn that you cannot love another human beings they all are selfish!!

  • Reply Brandon F September 14, 2019 at 1:53 am

    I think she broke me. Or something in me and to think she wanted me first. Should’ve never talked to her

  • Reply A D J September 14, 2019 at 3:37 am

    Trying to over come what I wish could be and what’s not ..

  • Reply Nonoa Sailo September 14, 2019 at 5:50 am

    I am gonna try and love again and everytime I did and open up my life and heart to someone or people I end up the victim….. But I think that's life..
    So this is what I do!? I cut off people from my life and walking alone ain't so bad …
    Makes me feel strong
    #Aquarius
    #jan30☺☺☺
    Life is beautiful who ever you are or where your from

  • Reply Brian Be September 14, 2019 at 8:56 am

    Thank you 🙏

  • Reply The Business September 14, 2019 at 9:02 am

    20 years of lifetime wasted on a 7 year relationship.

  • Reply Bikash Yadav September 14, 2019 at 9:54 am

    How calmly and effectively you spoke sir it directly hits on heart and mind …its soothing .Its immensely healing words from you sir

  • Reply Ibrahim Okasha September 14, 2019 at 10:03 am

    Before I even watch the vid. The answer is ice cream

  • Reply Mari TR September 14, 2019 at 4:34 pm

    I saw this video a few months ago and said it would be terrible to be heartbroken. Now im here after I was dumped because he didnt feel a spark between us after a few months. I guess it doesn't matter how long it lasts, it always hurts.

  • Reply Intellect Point September 14, 2019 at 7:59 pm

    It gets better guys. Trust me.

  • Reply awge rr September 15, 2019 at 3:58 am

    hearts been broken for like 4 months and I still can’t sleep at night, even worse when you witness your ex move on so quickly after such a long relationship and you’re just left to wonder where it all went wrong

  • Reply Justin Case September 15, 2019 at 4:28 am

    awesome. Epiphany! eureka.! god blesd you! what an eye opener! im officially on the wagon.

  • Reply Caren R Sabatina September 15, 2019 at 4:52 am

    I don't love him anymore, I don't want him anymore, it's just the hurt still there. I can't explain.

  • Reply darkness your old friend September 15, 2019 at 6:23 am

    'Hope can be incredibly destructive when your heart is broken' UGHHHHHH

  • Reply XO XO September 15, 2019 at 7:32 am

    I feel like he finally put out the fire in my heart. This is very relieving.

  • Reply Andrew Ramsahai September 15, 2019 at 8:34 am

    What if you don’t want to get over her….

  • Reply ViperTheNoLife September 15, 2019 at 11:42 am

    I work with my ex it’s so hard she acts like nothing happened. And she cheated on me just kiss the guy and i forgive her. But it was never the same and we broke up and I still what her but than I don’t Im so confused. It’s my first real relationship.

  • Reply Mike Spectre September 15, 2019 at 12:06 pm

    I WISH THERE WAS A WAY TO WIPE OUT MEMORIES OF AN EX. SO DONT HAVE TO BE IN EMOTIONAL AGONY FOR YEARS 🙁

  • Reply MRM September 15, 2019 at 2:03 pm

    Finally, something that might help

  • Reply Sunil Kumar Das September 15, 2019 at 6:10 pm

    It's fuc*ing tough(maybe toughest) so u know!

  • Reply Marcelo Gamboa September 15, 2019 at 8:27 pm

    Thank you! You helped me a lot.

  • Reply Jackie Hartley xo September 15, 2019 at 8:31 pm

    My boyfriend blocked me out of the blue on our 11 month ani and my friends told me they saw he was with another girl on his sc story and yeh, he promised to always be there for me and support me, sucks man, it rlly sucks.

  • Reply Damien Raith September 15, 2019 at 10:52 pm

    I’m just here because I was reading a really sad Manhua and it broke my heart… if you read “10 years where I loved you the most” make sure to have a doctor nearby.

  • Reply Alea A September 16, 2019 at 12:24 am

    In the thumbnail he looks like an older Joe Dempsie && it’s throwin me off lol

  • Reply Bob Stephens September 16, 2019 at 6:25 am

    Dated a girl for three years broke up a month ago and she’s already with another guy. This guy speaks the truth. Keep the grind! GET OVER THE ADDICTION

  • Reply scnd sch September 16, 2019 at 9:25 am

    It helps my friend who has a dream with love to realise that all the dramatic events in romantic novels aren't true. XD

  • Reply Morgan Jaggers September 16, 2019 at 1:35 pm

    I need his whole speech written. I need to read this. Feel it

  • Reply The Duck King September 16, 2019 at 7:28 pm

    All of this is hindered if your stuck in a situation were the person who broke you continues to walk in and out of your life.

  • Reply Stein Light September 16, 2019 at 7:49 pm

    For every woman who has a broken heart…you deserve it you wont find love you are not special you will die alone or be cheated over and over again.

  • Reply Always his Stinka September 16, 2019 at 11:02 pm

    It can be a painful thing to deal with. I could use some help myself. https://youtu.be/NoecefWNQ2s

  • Reply Prokrity Chowdhury September 17, 2019 at 4:35 am

    very important, many thanks.

  • Reply Terry Long September 17, 2019 at 1:34 pm

    Thanks a great deal

  • Reply Shamika September 17, 2019 at 5:17 pm

    I like to fart in a bag and inhale it on Tuesdays at 5pm.

  • Reply Shamika September 17, 2019 at 5:20 pm

    i have nothing and No one which isn't the worse thing in the world but when the depression and anxiety is on overdrive it's the worst feeling in the world. The pain is almost physical and i been fighting and putting up with this since i was 9 i was able to deal in my teens but after 20 it got really bad. In and out of hospitals, always thinking about suicide. Eating excess and pills dull the pain sometimes but there not healthy fixes. Im just tied of the rat race. Tired of feeling on edge even in my own space tired of feeling hollow, like an unstuffed cornucopia of misery and dred

  • Reply Sundra Salinas September 17, 2019 at 11:25 pm

    I had no reason to hate him, and every reason to love him.

  • Reply Serenity Heart September 18, 2019 at 4:44 am

    Not helping.
    I will be promoting permanent damage. You either prevent it or feel they eternal guilt.

  • Reply imcoop September 18, 2019 at 4:55 am

    I wish it were this easy

  • Reply Brian Galicia September 18, 2019 at 5:04 am

    My girlfriend broke up with me last night. We had it perfect for 4 years. I’m hurting right now looking on YouTube for solutions

  • Reply Ynah Pascual September 19, 2019 at 12:04 am

    It really hurt. It hurting me deep inside,and im fighting.

  • Reply A.A. September 19, 2019 at 3:49 am

    😭💔

  • Reply flxwercxrpse September 19, 2019 at 1:25 pm

    This comment section is a great one to come to during a heartbreak💜 im not heartbroken. Not romantically at least.

  • Reply Yeet Yeet September 19, 2019 at 8:33 pm

    Playing with my mf heart bro 🥺🥺 I hate highschool

  • Reply Alex Mester September 20, 2019 at 2:21 am

    I was dumped over a 10y monogamous relationship just a few months back and I'm 30yold … Get over yourselves and keep on squanching!
    Listen to the man he speaks gold!

  • Reply Jason Hagar September 20, 2019 at 10:00 am

    I have let the pain consume me for 5 years so that I can use that energy to reverse time

  • Reply DACRACKING September 20, 2019 at 11:23 am

    It does hurt guys, but you will recover, it takes time. But you will recover. That i promise.

  • Reply Oji Torres September 20, 2019 at 2:34 pm

    All girls are the same 😭

  • Reply Caroline López-Martínez September 20, 2019 at 3:15 pm

    Love this guy! So much insight, hope and support for those suffering from a broken heart. We will all heal!

  • Reply Chris Murphy September 21, 2019 at 1:35 am

    I just faced heartbreak today, after something I thought was going so well, I am completely shattered and upset .. but I’m really glad I came across this video. There’s always an onwards and upwards. I’ll get there

  • Reply Jackie Rico September 21, 2019 at 1:45 am

    hey whoever’s seeing this you got this you’re strong you got this i know it hurts a lot you’re not alone you got this do not give up💓💞💘💗💕

  • Reply Scotty miller September 21, 2019 at 4:26 am

    You can't fix a 4th stage genetic kidney disease

  • Reply Xan Der September 21, 2019 at 8:45 am

    Building yourself from within is better than having or asking companions just to feel better

  • Reply Janu Kumoro September 21, 2019 at 9:53 am

    Thats why i become a MGTOW because im tired of the woman drama , then i realize its time to going alone.

  • Reply Rome Blanchard September 21, 2019 at 12:07 pm

    We're not holding on to old feelings, we just haven't found new ones yet

  • Reply estellavaio September 22, 2019 at 1:35 am

    "…you have to be willing to let go, to accept that its over" was the hardest thing to hear.

  • Reply meganthe ratlover September 22, 2019 at 7:14 am

    My mind tells me that I'll never find anyone else… I know its not true. But its repeated so many times. That the next person wont except the flaws that my ex did.

  • Reply Anna Grakovich September 22, 2019 at 9:33 am

    I feel so lost and broken, we've been together for 5 years and this breakup came out of the blue for me. Thank you, Guy Winch, for giving this Ted Talk.

  • Reply E3 MA September 22, 2019 at 8:23 pm

    it be like that sometimes

  • Reply simone evangelista September 22, 2019 at 11:16 pm

    help me i'm depressed

  • Reply Pompey Monkey September 23, 2019 at 12:06 am

    Thank you.

  • Reply Kaio Kyle September 23, 2019 at 1:21 am

    I miss you so much Gemily. I'm in such terrible pain right now, this is the worst torture I've ever felt seriously. I would rather be shot and stabbed than to have this heartbreak.

  • Reply RoseChain September 23, 2019 at 3:57 am

    Its so hard for me especially how me and my ex broke up the same month she got pregnant. Its been 6 months since we broke up and I still can't get over her. Just the feeling of wanting to be there for her especially how she is pregnant with my baby. I know she is not the right person for me because she has hurt me so many times and I still choose to go back.

  • Reply Melanie hernanadez September 23, 2019 at 6:52 am

    Hey guys at least your toxic ex isn’t your next door neighbor like mine lolllll

  • Reply GROMK September 23, 2019 at 7:43 am

    I truly believe that this horrible time we all go through is an outstanding chance for us to become stronger and clearer than ever before! But it is incredibly tough.

  • Reply Sad boi September 23, 2019 at 11:19 am

    I just dont want to feel anymore. Im too sensitive with little things. I get jealous about things not worthy of jealousy. I care too much and overthink everything, and cant stop even if i do my best. I hold the littlest amount of hope in my heart, if theres any. I dont want these feelings anymore

  • Reply Natalia Simonetti September 23, 2019 at 12:38 pm

    I feel very angry because I've lost so much time of my life with that person

  • Reply Anthony Arellano September 23, 2019 at 1:27 pm

    We have a son and I see her almost every other day to meet up :/ and when my son is with me its obvious she's out with someone :/

  • Reply Angelo Moran September 23, 2019 at 3:35 pm

    He is a genius. When he said that we are addicts and memories are methadone, I instantly felt disgusted with myself and with a new motivation to be happy each day of this new chapter of my life

  • Reply jackyboy777666 September 23, 2019 at 8:28 pm

    Some people don't recover from a broken heart. Now I see other people as a compromise/not worth my energy or time.

  • Reply Charlotte September 23, 2019 at 10:20 pm

    Good tip! M.. U be gone soon out my head, u not that perfect !! And I REFUSE TO HOPE that things will work out! I can finally heal now i know how thanks

  • Reply Kimora Zah Fire Hunter September 24, 2019 at 5:03 am

    I have been crying for months straight due to this devastating heartbreak that I’m crushed with. The worst feeling is hearing from everyone else how amazing of a person I am and then being told I am the opposite from the one person my heart loves. It hurts so much. This person have decided to treat me very badly emotionally and mentally so he can continue to distance himself and continue to mess around with other women.

    The worst feeling is knowing I know better yet not realizing what Is wrong with me to cause him to behave this way.

    I am healing slowly tho. I’ve let him go. I’m slowly working on my self growth but I have not stopped crying. Hoping for that day to come.

  • Reply ATHUL KP September 24, 2019 at 5:04 am

    We all fucked up here, right?

  • Reply Aneehs Awti September 24, 2019 at 11:58 am

    Thank you for this

  • Reply caffein11 September 24, 2019 at 12:32 pm

    We know what the love is but nobody told the identity of the broken heart and how to get over. Thank you for the explanation..

  • Reply BarbieKen September 24, 2019 at 1:28 pm

    Very nice, but it dont always work that way

  • Reply Rayan Huss September 25, 2019 at 12:18 am

    With Money$

  • Reply aboutblank September 25, 2019 at 1:06 am

    CBD works well .

  • Reply Barli Putri September 25, 2019 at 8:22 am

    Just because it's over doesn't mean it's really over. Ok. Healing yourself girl

  • Reply irwin September 25, 2019 at 9:39 am

    how tf does yt know

  • Reply Daniel Miyahara September 25, 2019 at 8:38 pm

    My girlfriend and I broke up just to-day because she said she lost her love for me and can only see herself with me for years when only just yester-day it was "i'll love you forever" I really loved her, I planned on actually marrying this girl, but that's life I guess..

  • Reply lmao ok September 25, 2019 at 9:11 pm

    tried to be friends with my ex after he broke up with me because I genuinely wanted him in my life, he gave me all this hope (i think he was just trying to keep me around to feed his ego) and he continuously told me things like “I NEED you in my life” “I don’t care if there’s nobody else, I just want you to stay in my life” which confused me because he would avoid or ignore me sometimes, but it’s been almost a year now and I’m still trying to recover while he’s living his best single life, funny thing is I avoided this video for so long and now I think I’m ready to completely move on although I know it’s going to be rough

  • Reply Ghostkid 23 September 25, 2019 at 9:33 pm

    I'm actually in love with a fictional character and I know, you may think that's not possible, that it's just a crush and I will get over it but it's not that easy. For months/years he is the only thing on my mind and it breaks me. I'm crying nearly every day because of that.
    It hurts so much but my problem is…. I don't want to let go.

  • Reply Oliver Milagros September 26, 2019 at 2:39 am

    heartbreak sucks u wouldn’t wish it on a single soul like bad bad heartbreak oh no

  • Reply Rick Gonzalez September 26, 2019 at 3:49 am

    It kills me I can’t get over her 😑

  • Reply Rick Gonzalez September 26, 2019 at 3:53 am

    I lost and I can’t except it 💔

  • Reply Veronica Vlaecic September 26, 2019 at 5:57 am

    Forgive yourself

  • Reply Potrcko Pirot September 26, 2019 at 6:44 am

    It is very interesting how advice of an expert is to find negative experience in good person that we lost;
    It is very interesting how advice of an expert is to find a friend that will fill the gap that we had;

    It is very interesting that he didn't mention once that we should look inside and stand in front of a mirror: "I lost her because I was lonely; I lost her because I didn't love myself; I lost her because I was not giving what she gave me"…

    When you meet the Perfect girl, you should've prepared all your life to become Mr. Perfect, otherwise she will not pick you…

    Work on yourself people, at least try (once) to put happiness in your hands…

  • Reply Hikmat Mohammadi September 26, 2019 at 8:08 am

    I’ve gotten my heart broken but I’m still ready to give all of my love to the one I fall in love with next. Don’t let the past stop you from being happy in the future, Kings and Queens

  • Reply Hikmat Mohammadi September 26, 2019 at 8:10 am

    This popped up on my recommended as soon as I started falling for this girl I’m talking to. Is this a sign y’all?

  • Reply Ryan Gilston September 26, 2019 at 10:24 am

    My girlfriend broke up with me after 3 years, in that 3 years the moment we met, we clicked and everything went so smoothly, our family loved us, she was my best friend as well as my girlfriend, i spotted her before she even knew me and always had a space in my heart for her until 2 years later we went on our first date.

    I literally adored the girl.. i treated her as best as i could and i tried my hardest to make her happy, thinking of her with every decision i made.

    I cant even begin to describe the way im feeling now, i haven't felt even 10% of love than what i have for her. I really dont know what to do, i just wish i could have that one more chance to prove to her that we were meant to be together, she was my soul mate and even though we've just broke up i can't hate her for it, i don't know what more i can do because i really feel like im never going to find anyone again.

    I hope one day she see's this, and i hope we can give things another try because i know deep down that we belong together.

    I seriously need help :'(

  • Reply reign kenya September 26, 2019 at 1:10 pm

    Don't complicate your recovery

  • Reply june September 26, 2019 at 2:32 pm

    Can tramadol help with the withdrawal part? I read it can help opioid withdrawal?

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