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Chelsea Handler’s Life Is Worth Oversharing for the First Time Ever

February 21, 2020


ELLEN DEGENERES: Let’s
talk about the book though. It is really revealing. It’s like most of your books
have been– or all of them have been very funny. There’s humor in here,
but you really kind of go through therapy with us. Because you’re in therapy,
and then you write about it. CHELSEA HANDLER: Yeah, I had
a lot of stuff that I thought, oh, I thought, you know,
you come out to California. You have success,
and your life starts to move in a really fast pace. And it’s really hard
to say no to anything, because everybody’s throwing
attention, and money, and all these things at you. And you know, I kind of got
lost on myself for so many years that I– and I
know you can relate to what I’m talking about. Because you get in a cycle,
and it becomes a spin cycle. And for me, I wasn’t
taking seriously enough the things that happened
to me during my childhood. You know, my brother died
when I was nine years old. And even though I knew
that was a huge injury, I didn’t think that I had– I thought I was too smart
to have to go to therapy, and unpack that
pain or heal myself. And I didn’t want to,
so I made false attempts throughout my life. Like I’m going to go
to a therapist, yeah. And then as soon as it started
to get real, I would be like, yeah, I don’t like this. Or I don’t like
this vibe, because I wasn’t comfortable with
explaining to anybody or expressing to anybody that
I know that I am in pain. That I had a huge injury. That my brother said,
I’m going to come back, and I’ll never leave
you with these people, meaning my parents. Looked to me in
the eye, and that was the last time I ever
saw him or trusted a man. ELLEN DEGENERES: Right. CHELSEA HANDLER: And it
explains my entire existence, and why I have this. You know, why I’ve been so
loud and so deflecting of– you know, just moving so fast, and
not being in a relationship, and being fiercely
independent, and being– I can do everything. I’m resilient. I’m just fierce and all of that
was ignoring the main issue, which is it’s OK to be in pain. And your pain is legitimate no
matter what happened to you. You don’t have to be raped
or sexually assaulted for you to have real pain. We’re all injured, and I met
this psychiatrist who took me to a whole other planet. And my life is so much
better because of it. And I thought, God, if I’m
just going to make a career out of oversharing, this seems like
something worth oversharing for the first time ever. ELLEN DEGENERES:
Right, right, right. I agree. It’s great, and you
talk about being high. You like vodka. You like marijuana. How much of this book was
written under those influences? CHELSEA HANDLER: I don’t
drink when I write. I don’t really
drink nearly as much as I used to because
cannabis has become legal, and it’s awesome. And it’s just now with the
educated component and people labeling everything, you
know what you’re taking. You’re not going to a
party, taking a cookie, and then passing out for five
hours crying in a bathroom, you know? It’s much more– it’s much
more medicinal than that, and now it’s legitimized. It’s becoming more
legitimized, so I definitely did go through the book. Because it became heavy. It became about my brother
dying, my mother dying. Then my dad died while
I was writing the book and then two dogs died. And I was like, oh my god,
people are dropping like flies. And finally, I was like,
no, you can make that funny. That’s what you do is overshare. Tell your truth, and
be somebody who’s truthful about how much it
sucks to be in pain and trying to be tough. You know, I thought
vulnerability was for weaklings. Vulnerability is strength. It’s strong to be able to cry,
and to be able say I’m hurting. I’m trying to repair myself. I’m trying to become
a better human being. ELLEN DEGENERES: Yeah, I agree.

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100 Comments

  • Reply andrea collins April 8, 2019 at 3:34 pm

    Canโ€™t wait to get this book!!! Love Chelsea since the start.

  • Reply Javi Ruiz April 8, 2019 at 3:57 pm

    I miss her having a show!!!

  • Reply T.S. Emilie April 8, 2019 at 4:26 pm

    Preach ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿป๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿป๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿป

  • Reply Gaurav Vikalp April 8, 2019 at 4:43 pm

    It's probably the first time that I'm seeing positive comments under Chelsea's video. Thank god they're no bots coming for her ๐Ÿ™‚ !

  • Reply T Q April 8, 2019 at 4:44 pm

    ๐Ÿ˜ข Truth.

  • Reply Vina14eva April 8, 2019 at 4:59 pm

    Thank you, so much Chelsea!

  • Reply Gosia Surowiec April 8, 2019 at 5:22 pm

    Lov u Chelsea๐ŸŒท

  • Reply Vikingsandra April 8, 2019 at 5:29 pm

    I like Chelsea

  • Reply Alice Gordezky April 8, 2019 at 5:42 pm

    Wow! So much respect for you. Hope your journey brings you peace, knowledge and contentment

  • Reply Gino Cassano April 8, 2019 at 6:04 pm

    People throwing money and attention ? Where do I sing up? ๐Ÿ˜…

  • Reply s1 April 8, 2019 at 6:57 pm

    Man i really connected with that.

  • Reply Emma The Paper Quiller April 8, 2019 at 7:04 pm

    I hear some Brene Brown influence towards the end!

  • Reply Dimiemor Enriquez April 8, 2019 at 7:11 pm

    Ellen I admire you so much๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜

  • Reply Dan Silva April 8, 2019 at 7:45 pm

    Ellen's hair… Seriously?

  • Reply K N April 8, 2019 at 8:28 pm

    Chelsea is actually one of my favorite authors. I bought, read, and kept all of her books so far. So for the new one, I pre-ordered a hardcover! ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿ‘ ๐Ÿ“š

  • Reply giselle joseph April 8, 2019 at 8:58 pm

    Thanks for sharing chealsea this life is the lords you are living it.

  • Reply V S April 8, 2019 at 10:02 pm

    love her

  • Reply ManOnThe Moon April 9, 2019 at 12:12 am

    Smart lady

  • Reply Omar Dardoe April 9, 2019 at 12:55 am

    I really love Ellen because she is so nice

  • Reply Airport Chronicle's April 9, 2019 at 1:24 am

    What a wretchet woman!

  • Reply Amilie W April 9, 2019 at 7:52 am

    Good for you Chelsea! I am glad that you are getting the help that you need. It is so important in addressing the pain instead of avoiding it. RIP to your family and dogs who passed away.

  • Reply good man maxamed April 9, 2019 at 9:42 am

    Ellen ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜

  • Reply Kelda Kellie April 9, 2019 at 9:48 am

    Thank you Ellen for affirming Chelsea so the journey of compassion and kindness that reflects in all who identify with any struggle right now.

  • Reply Ji Ehjk April 9, 2019 at 10:01 am

    She looks so different from before, not physically but mentally & in a positive way. Love her & Ellen.

  • Reply rad iohead April 9, 2019 at 10:07 am

    its ok to be in pain. i mean it isnt but its ok to be vulnerable. ive been acting out for years but the truth is its because ive been in pain…

  • Reply Kristine Tank April 9, 2019 at 10:59 am

    If anyone needed therapy….it sure was Chelsea. Saw that years ago….

  • Reply Andrew Harrell April 9, 2019 at 11:02 am

    Had NO idea her dad passed away. She never posted about it.

  • Reply Hannah Wetton April 9, 2019 at 2:20 pm

    Love her and needed to hear this right now

  • Reply newtubes April 9, 2019 at 2:59 pm

    i always knew something was covering her soul

  • Reply Lauren Donovan April 9, 2019 at 3:20 pm

    What an incredible woman!

  • Reply Thomas Nappo April 9, 2019 at 3:33 pm

    CHELSEA THINKS SHES FUNNY…SHES NOT

  • Reply Anne Wambui Kanyi April 9, 2019 at 5:09 pm

    ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿผ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿผ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿผ

  • Reply Jonathan Moore April 9, 2019 at 5:24 pm

    ๐Ÿ‘‹

  • Reply Uriel Valdez April 9, 2019 at 6:30 pm

    Therapy is the real deal, people just need balls to straighten their life.

  • Reply The dog guy Joe April 9, 2019 at 8:35 pm

    I love Chelsea handler so much! Sheโ€™s an allโ€™s around amazing soul!

  • Reply GourmetGilda April 9, 2019 at 8:43 pm

    Health happiness and love from Canada eh!

  • Reply Lisa Luminaire Intuitive April 9, 2019 at 10:03 pm

    She makes really valid points about pain, we are allowed to feel how we feel and to choose to heal.

  • Reply MrNikkimaxine April 10, 2019 at 1:19 am

    Is time

  • Reply LeezPgh April 10, 2019 at 2:09 am

    Awesome! Sending Love Chelsea. Sounds like an incredible book. And an incredibly healing journey.

  • Reply Ashley Jarrell April 10, 2019 at 2:27 am

    I like how she tried to match the furniture.

  • Reply Bran Flake April 10, 2019 at 2:32 am

    Thats my baby

  • Reply Danilo F. Silva April 10, 2019 at 3:45 am

    Wow !!

  • Reply Lisa Whiteley April 10, 2019 at 4:08 am

    Love your message Chelsea!

  • Reply Rich Leang April 10, 2019 at 4:15 am

    People need to learn both ways, to be tough but also to know when to be vulnerable. Life is all about balance. If you ever find yourself on one side of the spectrum is time to do the opposite and find the middle.

  • Reply miss internetty April 10, 2019 at 8:17 am

    I hope ellen will have a mukbang…in her own way ๐Ÿ˜‚

  • Reply Lakshmi Krishnakumar April 10, 2019 at 12:53 pm

    YES YES YES AND ALL THE YESES

  • Reply The channel April 10, 2019 at 3:29 pm

    Chelsea if you really want to become a better human being, go see the move โ€œUnplannedโ€ itโ€™s life changing. And it presents the facts.

  • Reply compendious succient April 10, 2019 at 3:38 pm

    Wish I could afford therapy

  • Reply ADez April 10, 2019 at 5:55 pm

    I love Chelsea- always have. I've bought, read and even re-read her books. So yes, of course I've pre- ordered this. Thank you for sharing your truth with us.

  • Reply Saturnreturn123 April 10, 2019 at 6:06 pm

    I love and respect her so much more after this interview. I canโ€™t wait to read her book!!!

  • Reply Ale De La Garza April 10, 2019 at 6:53 pm

    I just love Chelsea. Sheโ€™s amaze balls

  • Reply sparklesandseahorses April 10, 2019 at 7:29 pm

    This was amazing. Well done Chelsea

  • Reply Melissa Callia April 10, 2019 at 8:03 pm

    Vulnerability is strength ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿผ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿผ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿผ๐Ÿ‘๐Ÿผ

  • Reply May B April 10, 2019 at 10:12 pm

    Absolutely LOVE the person Chelsea Handler has grown into. LOVE

  • Reply Heather Hannig April 10, 2019 at 10:20 pm

    Whoa, love this side of her!

  • Reply Missy Coronado April 11, 2019 at 3:09 am

    This took courage because it is such a change for you. Girl, I wish I could take your pain away. But I guess its not something that gets 'taken away', its something that we cope with, or sometimes endure for a time, or it forces us to grow…whatever the case, we are usually able to handle more after it, and trained anew. Vulnerability is hard. Saying that hurt me is hard. It requires courage.

  • Reply Ladi Smith April 11, 2019 at 4:09 am

    she is so honest. makes ME feel liberated! <3

  • Reply bobodianne April 11, 2019 at 7:49 am

    I love you both… but this lady doesn't speak to me. I would prefer not to see her too often on the ellen show.

  • Reply June Bug April 11, 2019 at 10:49 am

    So full of wisdom.

  • Reply Odelia Cohen April 11, 2019 at 11:04 am

    Wow….what a courageous women

  • Reply root8angel April 11, 2019 at 11:19 am

    Chelsea is amazing ๐Ÿ’–

  • Reply Jessie Britton April 11, 2019 at 1:49 pm

    Chelsea you are such an amazing human being! I am so glad you exist. โค

  • Reply plantamantha April 11, 2019 at 2:01 pm

    ๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿ™Œ

  • Reply Susie Plummer April 11, 2019 at 2:59 pm

    I wish more men would write books about it being okay to be vulnerable.

  • Reply gengarrules777 April 11, 2019 at 3:02 pm

    Feelings. Just as hard as bullets.

  • Reply Howie Long April 11, 2019 at 3:37 pm

    When you write a book, you gotta open it.

  • Reply J SB April 11, 2019 at 9:26 pm

    โคโคโค

  • Reply Lucia Baez April 11, 2019 at 11:16 pm

    her first comment on her book made me so emotional wow, you can tell she wants to tell her side and where she comes from and it feels so real, like nice to meet you Chelsea hahaha

  • Reply taraniso April 12, 2019 at 12:41 am

    Love Chelsea. I don't want her to lose her edge. She's so brutally tough I love it.

  • Reply Alayzha Toston April 12, 2019 at 12:55 am

    ๐Ÿ‘‹ has not even put your life to life right and your job is good job ๐Ÿ‘ day was Christmas ๐ŸŽ„ one โ˜๏ธ day day was one โ˜๏ธ is your life day to be here for Christmas Eve day is your Christmas Day here was the opportunity of you to come here in rock and Christmas ellen Alayzhatoston day day was great ๐Ÿ‘ day day one โ˜๏ธ day day love ๐Ÿ’— day one โ˜๏ธ day day was one โ˜๏ธ is not really great ๐Ÿ‘ Christmas ๐ŸŽ„ has not really good Christmas ๐ŸŽ„ this year was good for you guys to do this iis first one โ˜๏ธ I love โค๏ธ you your love ๐Ÿ’• was

  • Reply Katie Mims April 12, 2019 at 2:58 am

    This is the Chelsea handler that I love!!!

  • Reply Adam Carroll April 12, 2019 at 7:47 am

    I love her! โค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ

  • Reply Araz Harboyan April 12, 2019 at 8:46 am

    Major props for her ability to be so open and honest, especially at a time when our society isnโ€™t used to such transparency, considering the fact that our own countries leader doesnโ€™t go a day without some sort of fabrication. It almost made me emotional when she said โ€œvulnerability is strengthโ€ because Iโ€™m an extremely emotional person and am glad to hear from someone who has dealt with so much pain that this isnโ€™t a sign of weakness, but actually the opposite.โ™ฅ๏ธ

  • Reply lauchzwiebel April 12, 2019 at 4:16 pm

    She is just an other capitalist

  • Reply H S April 12, 2019 at 4:40 pm

    It's OK to be in pain, and it's actually essential that we acknowledge that it lives inside of us somewhere, if we want to be compassionate people.

  • Reply Elizabeth Harttley April 12, 2019 at 4:46 pm

    Chelsea, you have hit it with this, there are pains that seem invisible but aren't. The acting out aspect is heavy af.
    Rock on sister much love and peace.

  • Reply Stoic Chimpanzee April 12, 2019 at 5:00 pm

    Every talk show she say the same BS, another boring celebrate trying to sell is boring book.

  • Reply Olivia Bortolotti April 12, 2019 at 9:36 pm

    So well spoken.

  • Reply iolanis Journey April 13, 2019 at 2:20 pm

    It is nice to see her be real and let her guard down. When I saw her in the past she was always "on", just trying to be funny but not really showing who she is. She definitely seems more at peace and comfortable in own skin now. That is heavy all the loss she has been thru, glad she got help to learn how to work thru all that pain. Wish her well and continued peace and healing.

  • Reply Clear82 April 13, 2019 at 2:37 pm

    So happy she's back ๐Ÿ’–

  • Reply Mirela Vasile April 13, 2019 at 5:35 pm

    This is way too personal, I don't want to hear this

  • Reply Alain Bruno April 14, 2019 at 7:22 pm

    Chelsea is so real ๐Ÿ‘

  • Reply Live Till I Die April 14, 2019 at 8:56 pm

    The feeling of being healed in therapy is one that is priceless. It cost me lots of money but I got my life back.

  • Reply SVYK. April 15, 2019 at 5:24 am

    I didn't know it was possible to love her even more than I already do.

  • Reply Derek Scott April 15, 2019 at 6:14 pm

    She used to be funny but not anymore. Not entertaining at all.

  • Reply Rhys Westbury April 16, 2019 at 11:19 am

    Yes, Chelsea!

  • Reply Akio Aslan April 17, 2019 at 4:17 am

    Love her

  • Reply Olivia Rose April 22, 2019 at 11:17 am

    Chelsea is so empowering!!!!๐Ÿ’œ

  • Reply Lumi Lara April 27, 2019 at 1:53 pm

    Thank you Chelseaโค๏ธ

  • Reply Katie Marie June 9, 2019 at 3:13 pm

    My mom is reading the book. Iโ€™m a comedian. (Not a famous comedian) But Iโ€™m the comedian of my family. And the comedian of my class. So yeah. Everyone I know thinks Iโ€™ll be the next Chelsea handler or Jim Carrie or something. I totally agree. Itโ€™s my dream job.

  • Reply Jane Doe June 10, 2019 at 5:07 pm

    although her tone seems aggressive and mean she seems like a very good person

  • Reply Ishak Sadat June 16, 2019 at 6:50 am

    This is so true

  • Reply Thomas Nappo July 3, 2019 at 9:14 pm

    CHELSEA IS NOT FUNNY

  • Reply james maulding July 20, 2019 at 11:50 pm

    she is going down trump is coming for you liar

  • Reply Randy Boisa August 16, 2019 at 8:23 pm

    I thought she was moving to Spain, typical hypocrite.

  • Reply A P August 19, 2019 at 4:42 am

    Love you Chelsea!!

  • Reply Y Y September 14, 2019 at 2:32 pm

    Hello Privilege. Chelsea is an idiot

  • Reply Jake Ross September 14, 2019 at 4:19 pm

    chelsea handler is the epitome of western female privilege

  • Reply Dr. Deepti Singh September 20, 2019 at 1:10 pm

    Chelsea said on Lily Singhs show dat she is not capable of handling pregnancy but my suggestion is- Go! Just have dat experierce! Start afresh wid a new life! U will b amazed at da healing capacity of ur child!
    Little angels!

  • Reply Tan Lee Lee October 4, 2019 at 6:05 am

    Would recommend watching or listening to the podcast Grace Helbig has with her. It has more indepth about what she's talking about. I think Ellen here isn't so comfortable addressing this topic but the podcast is really good to listen to.

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