Today we have a new direction.
No moping or sadness or moping about sad things. Everyone has bad
days and everyone needs time to recover but today’s not that day. Because someone
very dear and very close to me needs my help. Meet Isabel Knightley… 30, beautiful,
intelligent Wrangler of small children and restauranteur
husbands. Happily married for the last six years to one John Knightley, brother to Alex Knightley. Lately, Izzy’s been
showing signs of discontent in her marriage and so far her answer is to ignore it
and hope it goes away. And as much as everyone likes to think they
can, problems do not go away unless you fix them. And if left unchecked, problems tend to get worse. After all, I am Emma Woodhouse
and I eat problems for breakfast. Why did I have to hear all that? – And I’m not 30. Why did you say I was 30?
– You seem 30. I can’t believe I’m doing this. I know, but if we address the
problem now it can’t get any worse. – Let’s begin, shall we?
– Fine. – So, what do I do?
– Well, we know that John hasn’t been listening to you and your needs in this marriage. He does listen to me, but he just has
a different idea. It’s usually the better one. – The more practical one.
– Oh, I know. Those Knightley boys can be – so very practical.
– There’s nothing to be done about it. Uh, yes there is! Let’s begin by finding a current event
or situation in your life that perfectly exemplified the main theme of your issues! Huh? What does that mean?
Are you just making stuff up? – No! Can you please take this seriously?
– I will if you start talking like a normal person. Um, like the house. Okay?
The house is a perfect example. You said that you were upset because
John didn’t think it was a good time to work on the house. – Right. I mean, it’s not.
– But fixing the house would make your life a lot easier. That should be a consideration. – It’s not part of the plan right now.
– So his main reason for ignoring you, is because your wants deviate from the original plan. A practical and budget-conscious 10-year
plan. Right? Sounds terrible when you put it that way. I mean, there’s more to it than that.
I’m willing to let it go. You shouldn’t be! You have to stand up
for what you want in this marriage. Just answer the question, Izzy, Am I right? I suppose. Source identified! No point to rehash the past.
What’s done is done. Now we can move on to the future. – Okay.
– So, can you think of anything that’s going on at the moment,
or coming up that’s similar in any way? – I’m sorry. similar to what?
– The house. Something that’s coming up, similar to the house? – We don’t have any more houses.
– No, that’s not what I mean. Aside from the house is there anything then John isn’t fully
including you on? No.
Well, maybe. I don’t know. – Izzy… Come on, let’s hear it.
– I guess it’s a little sad,
always seeing you after the holidays – I know. Wait, that bothers you?
– Of course it bothers me. Watching decorations being taken down
before ever seeing them up… – But, its better time for John. So…
– But not for you! That’s not right, Izzy. – No, Emma. This is something I’ve accepted, it’s fine.
– Hey, don’t shrug it off! Those are honest and reasonable feelings. But luckily there’s still something we
can do about it. – Really? What are we going to do?
– You are going to get this deep tissue massage while Harriet and I come up with a solution. – Really?
– Do you want the massage or not? No, I do! But didn’t you want to spend more time together? We will. When you get back. Fine. Have it your way… as always. – Is this normal?
– Always, Mrs. Knightley. Enjoy! – Okay, Harriet. Time to brainstorm.
– Ready. Here’s the problem: Izzy lacks power
in the relationship. John make decisions and Izzy goes along
with them. She wants to be supportive but because her opinions aren’t being heard,
she’s feeling resentful. – Well then, she needs our help!
– I know. Izzy’s marriage is unbalanced. – So we need to identify a place
where she can take some of the control back.
-Where? After their visit here, the Knightleys will go on their yearly trip to Joshua Tree. – Joshua Tree?
– It’s a lot of rocks and wilderness and well… – Joshua trees.
– Oh, didn’t Alex go there during Thanksgiving? Those Knightley boys love their Joshua Trees.
It’s as weird as it sounds. – Okay.
– But that doesn’t mean Izzy likes it. This time it’s different. – This time, she gets to go where he wants to go.
– Where she wanna go? – Ooh, I’m thinking Hawaii.
– Ooh. Warm sand, turquoise water, tropical
drinks with little umbrellas in them… – Who wouldn’t want to go there?
– It sounds amazing! I know. So here’s what I want you to do… Go make a reservation at a Waikiki resort
and book their flights. – Okay. Should I wait for Izzy to get back?
– No, we’ll make it a surprise. Everyone love’s surprises! Life’s too short. Seize the opportunity! Speaking of… How’s your quest for a hobby going? Oh. Okay. I responded to ad online for a dinner group that likes swings!
But it wasn’t what I thought it was. I can imagine. Well, don’t give up. Its just a matter of
finding the right group to join. It seems so hard. I just went home and played Ukelele. Well, that’s good to hear! I’m glad you picked it up again. You can’t let things in the past stop you
from doing what you love, Harriet. Well, we can talk about that later. – Right now I want you to go and work on Izzy’s itinerary.
– Right away, Emma. Izzy is going to be so happy! Back from a massage and a trip to Hawaii,
it’s a girl’s dream come true. – It feel so good to be helping people again!
– Can I come in already… – Or do you have a mani-pedi lined up for me?
– Izzy, you’re back! How was it? How do you feel? – Tenderized.
– Good. We’ve come up with a solution to all your problems. – Really? What did you do?
– You’re going to Hawaii! Oh, but we’re going camping in Joshua Tree. – You don’t want to go to Joshua Tree.
– But we go every year. – Not a good reason.
– But John likes it. – You don’t.
– Sure I do. It’s nice being at one with nature. No having hot showers and sleeping in tents
on the floor without proper bathrooms… I mean is it really so awful to want a
real bathroom with a hot shower and maybe a jacuzzi tub? – And something for the kids to do besides stare at rocks?
– Keep going, this is a safe space Just let it all out. Tell me more. Well, it’s beautiful and all and John
loves it but just once it would be nice to go
somewhere different with new people and new activities… Something like a fancy hotel, resort maybe lying on the beach with the big
free drink, warm sand and turquoise waters. That does sound pretty amazing. I think it’s well past time you got the
vacation you deserve. Izzy, you need to tell John what you want. What exactly am I telling him? You don’t want to go camping. That instead you want to go to… Oh…oh… It’s expensive. No, no, no… – I can’t. He won’t like it. We’ll just end up arguing.
– No, I promise, you won’t. Don’t worry! It’s all part of the plan. – See, you say ‘plan’, I instantly worry.
-Trust me, John is a rational guy all you have to do is prove him wrong. Surprise him with a fool proof plan. – Okay. That might work.
– There is no might. You have me. This is what I do. Okay. Okay let’s do it. -Oh, God, I’m so nervous.
– And excited? – Yes, and excited!
– Oh, me too, me too!