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30 Essential Ideas you should know about ADHD, 5A ADHD is Time Blindness

August 12, 2019


Now viewing ADHD as this neural-genetic or neural-biologic disorder of self- regulation brings with it some very
important insights I would want you and families who I counsel to understand not the least of which is this one this is ADHD writ large it always know ADHD is to summarize it in a single phrase time
blindness people with ADHD can I do what I’m and that includes looking back to look
ahead to get ready from its coming at you so the individual
with ADHD is kinda living in the now and wherever the now goes they are being
polled along by the gnomes wherever it goes I give an
example from our adult clinic so rather funny but it wasn’t to his
wife this couple came into our office in Massachusetts once and she said let me
tell you what it’s like living with this guy because it’s like having a fourth child
actually this is what happened last weekend she says if you can’t do something about
this I’m leaving him here’s what happened he went out to mow
the yard he will do a lot more out to the garage
in the tank was empty so we reach for the fuel can it was empty to so he threw it in the
back at the Ford Explorer and headed down to the little quicky Mart and while I was filling up the gas can
his body polls and in his ford explorer in says you know it’s opening day on the trot
stream what you say we go fish a little bit and so the guy hops in his buddies
explore and a coal fly fishing and they are out for six hours and then
they get thirsty and decide to stop off at a pub for
beers and other at the little local tavern is a true story by the way because
within an hour the state police had found his car still running an open gas
can ask the question any finally wandered home at four
o’clock in the afternoon to see what happens doesn’t matter what
your plans were what your goals for the now is more
compelling than the information you’re holding in
mind and you will get pulled along by the now you are time lined because if we had to summarize in a single sentence what is the purpose
up the frontal lobe to humans is to organize your behavior across time in anticipation of what is
coming at you the future so ADHD creates a blindness
to time or technically to be more accurate
nearsightedness to the future I can only be eloquent want national a this is extemporaneous I’m
not there okay ADHD brain is at a tard a blindness two-time or
technically to be exact it is a nearsightedness to
the future just as people who are nearsighted can
only read things close at hand people with ADHD can only deal with
things near in time the further out the event lines the less they are capable at
dealing with it and this is why everything is left at the last minute because they only deal with less minutes that’s all they perceive that all the
deal with it all they organize to and so their life is a series of one
crisis after another all of which were avoidable because people prepared and they didn’t they weren’t
ready on time in time overtime with what they
needed at that time note the word time so ADHD is destroying
the timing and timeliness of human behavior that is a very important thing for
parents to understand because well a three year old does not
have to have a sense of time a 30-year-old us and one in the most
devastating deficit in adult life that ADHD producers is a
disruption in the fabric of time but can’t cope
with it as well as others now this ability to
organize across time comes with the capacity to build
pyramids have behavior from little behaviors to the bigger
behaviors above them to the bigger goals about them all human
behavior can be organized into a hierarchy think about planning a wedding can you
imagine hierarchy you would have to create the decision trees and when they would
have to be done and when you would have to book to church and get the minister and get the flowers and booked the
reception hall and all those come with little subroutines like picking up a
telephone in calling your minister right it’s the final old that allows you
to organize all over those toward the first single
overarching purpose the wedding and that’s with ADHD destroys people
with ADHD cannot hierarchically organize behavior and so they are
accustomed to dealing with behaviors in little fits and starts but they can’t
lose those together as well as others to create the bigger
goal to the bigger goal all the way up and
that’s why you see a short attention span it’s not really a
short attention span the inability to organize behavior across time into a hierarchy the ability to look ahead is called
intention so ADHD is actually ID’d its intention deficit disorder because it doesn’t
matter what your intentions are you’re not going to do them with sold all you can head out the door for school in the morning and promise
your mother that you will not be put in timeout again you really you will get it
right today you’ll be hate yourself you will
not fight with the other kid you will finish work and you mean it shouldn’t clearly but within an hour your mothers
getting the usual call that you’re in time out to nature disruptive and a need to come and get you I’m
notice what happened to your intentions are not the problem and it’s not insincerity see inability
to organize around those intentions so ATT is really i DD now I want to
understand something your brain can be split into two pieces
the back part is where you acquire knowledge the front
part is where you use it the back part his knowledge the front
part his performance ADHD like a meat cleaver just split your
brain in half so it doesn’t matter what you
know you won’t use it you have what we call in psychology a
performance disorder performance disorders have nothing to do
with skill you have all the skills other people your age possess but you
can’t use them because you see if the executive system
where the rubber meets the road where what you know get applied in every
day what you do and ADHD is a disorder up doing what you
know it is not a disorder up knowing what to
do and that is a very important thing I
want families to understand as well your child unless they were raised in a
zoo or in a very impoverished area or were adopted out of some far-fetched
war-torn undeveloped country has all the
information and knowledge that the other kids their age have what they can’t do issues at it is the application up what you know
that this disorder robs you of same get smartest person on
the planet and you’re still gonna do some pretty stupid things because it’s not what you know it’s
doing so I’ll

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38 Comments

  • Reply Kristin Figlioli January 23, 2015 at 9:01 pm

    0359-0404.  Can't even explain how this applies to me.  Sitting here wondering where the day went, how it could possibly already be Friday, and just so completely lost as to how to fix my brain. So, I googled "Time + ADHD" and here I am….. 

  • Reply Charles Stevenson March 1, 2015 at 2:03 pm

    Following a traumatic existence spanning fifty four years thus far it is now becoming a worsening dilemma as the fight intensifies between the 'newby' diagnosed children and their ever passive parenting styles leading to argument for or against the very existence of a damning and exhausting condition shouldered (predominantly) by the sufferer (petitioner)

  • Reply Bill Dickerson March 11, 2015 at 12:13 pm

    This man would appear to know me personally. Everything he says is me. I could be his poster child – except that I'm 5 decades beyond that. Yes, it took over 50 years for things to come together and I INSISTED my doctor  refer me to someone who would know. He being an MD didn't really know squat about it, just like most MDs. They send you to a specialist if it's arthritis, if it's a throat or ear problem, but for a brain issue, naw, they know all about that, right? MDs should never be allowed to diagnose such complex issues with the mind and brain, but they do. And they miss.
    It's exhausting, Charles, exhausting. Living to get through the day. Living with this and up to other people's expectations of us. People don't get it when you don't keep track of 5 minutes passing. To me the passing of 5 minutes can be almost the same as an hour. In fact I'm sure it's been only 5 minutes but I look at the clock and it's been 45.

  • Reply Anstria Greenwood March 28, 2015 at 8:41 pm

    So true, although time  issues are only  part of the problem.  TX for posting.

  • Reply Ribbonsrabbit July 29, 2015 at 3:57 am

    Did a person with cognitive auditory processing disorder and ADHD do the subtitles?
    This is a great and refreshing way to explain the good heartedness and intention combined with the severe distractability that stops you from following through.

  • Reply Scott Shapiro, MD October 14, 2015 at 9:28 pm

    Dr. Barkley- Thank you for a fantastic, informative video. Your research and articles has lead to major progress in this field.

  • Reply P Jackson February 29, 2016 at 11:01 am

    This was excellent. Thank you.

  • Reply polyanthesis April 8, 2016 at 10:58 am

    See, at 7:00.. he mentions children from impoverished war torn countries.

    Lovely, I was born in a third world country and war broke out two months after my birth. What does this mean for my ADHD diagnosis?

  • Reply Tess Lily April 26, 2016 at 3:34 am

    this made me want to cry it was so accurate

  • Reply H Kwak May 18, 2016 at 5:13 am

    I had no idea why the only thing I could do after 4 year biology study was wash the beakers.. It was miserable.. but I have the answer now..

  • Reply Todd C November 18, 2016 at 4:59 am

    This hurts to listen to. This just might be me. I need an appointment for a psychiatrist. I have intended to schedule one for over a week. But I haven't gotten around to it.

    I just lost a job despite my best intentions.

  • Reply Laurie Jean March 3, 2017 at 3:36 am

    what is the frontal lobe for but to organize your behavior across time in anticipation of what is coming at you: the future

  • Reply Laurie Jean March 3, 2017 at 3:39 am

    there's no deficit in our intentions – we have great intentions. he should say this differently. he finally does say intentions aren't the problem but he should start there.

  • Reply Laurie Jean March 3, 2017 at 3:40 am

    I know that feeling of performance disorder – I know a TON and sometimes I can use it and other times I can't, and I can't control when one or the other happens

  • Reply mearcat74 April 13, 2017 at 8:54 pm

    Disorder?

  • Reply 이지민 June 6, 2017 at 5:31 pm

    This is so relatable. My parents always say that I'm not caring enough and I'm not sincere enough but actually it's just that I'm failing at everything no matter how hard I try. It's sad they don't get it.

  • Reply Alpha Lite August 13, 2017 at 10:20 pm

    I just found out this year that I have ADD. I'm 57 and seeing this made me cry. Not knowing what was the matter was devastating. I told my current 'doctor' and he just smiled and in a cheshire smile said " don't worry about it too much" I said "are you kidding me?" He clearly does not believe in this diagnosis. I have completely lost faith in the medical community. I know I have this as I tick all of the boxes. I though we were advanced here in Canada. Not!

  • Reply Craig Nicholson October 15, 2017 at 3:50 pm

    I take 90 mg of concerta after being diagnosed at 52. So what job did I get at age 52.

    A principal of a school. ADHD or not. Anything is possible. They put me on leave for being ADHD . Two years later they want me to go back. Let your character and your integrity to do the right thing when it matters always shine through.
    So learn how to lead and manage others well in whatever job you do and you will be surprised how much you will learn about lead yourself. Read and listen to stuff to do with leadership and take control of your life. If you don't someone else will.

  • Reply GenXer82 December 11, 2017 at 3:06 am

    This is so true (and so sad). Too bad people have to suffer this frustrating condition, living with constant struggle, and eventually leading to other mental health conditions (anxiety, depression). Medication helps a great deal, but does not cure. The key to surviving this is to find your passion in life and pursue it. One also needs strong faith and a good support system.

  • Reply GenXer82 December 11, 2017 at 4:43 am

    For those of you out there with ADHD…..would you consider it a CURSE or a BLESSING?

  • Reply Oh For Fox Sake December 28, 2017 at 10:59 pm

    I also found this painful to hear, yet completely accurate. The truth hurts. I am 47 and was just diagnosed with ADHD. I am happy now that I am understanding why I've struggled so much. But at the same time I am so so sad that this was not caught sooner! None of the doctors even considered this of all of the doctors I have seen over the last 20+ years. In my desperate need for help none of them helped me! The reason I was finally diagnosed with ADHD is because I figured it out thanks to the internet and YouTube! A doctor then confirmed my suspicion, unprompted by me. Medication changes are already helping me feel tons better! I have a lot of therapy ahead.

  • Reply MJade January 13, 2018 at 7:57 pm

    Terrible captioning 😅

  • Reply Alan Berkeley January 17, 2018 at 1:15 pm

    I have an idea.

    Why don't my near namesake Barkley, Ty Pennington, William Dodson, Joe Biederman all star in an advert on TV. The advert is sponsored by Shire or Eli Lilly.

    It goes like this…

    If you don't take Adderall you are looking at having six kids by the age of 19, being in and out of prison, being a serial killer, have 42 kids to 30 different women, be a multiple rapist, car crashes, cause car crashes, pedophile, bankrupt, homeless, bank robber, car thief, alcoholic, heroin addict, estranged from your families and parents. That was my life before

    Take Speed (Adderall) and you will be a pillar of the community, a brilliant car driver and even a race driver a multi-millionaire, nobel peace prize winner, brilliant at sports, get a top class honors degree, be married with 3 kids, live in a huge mansion, be a another company CEO, and another Bill Gates, write a number hit single, be a successful author, sports person, and get a job as chairman of Shire where you can plug more psychiatric drugs!

    Here, where's my pay check from Shire for his advert?

  • Reply pmgc April 30, 2018 at 12:18 pm

    OMG this is so me. I don't get things done and before I know it so much time has passed and I am embarrassed by this and then never accomplish anything. So frustrating for me and others.

  • Reply Gabriel Fair May 1, 2018 at 5:18 pm

    I have this theory that ADD is developed as a childhood coping strategy to parents fighting.

  • Reply Gabe Petro May 9, 2018 at 2:42 am

    I have never been diagnosed with ADD but now in my 30s I know I have it. I have to work super hard in my mind to do important things. There really is no time. If I have an appointment. I mark it ahead of time on the calendar and I will look at the calendar everyday having no clue what day it is. As I near closer to the time, I'm looking at the calendar more often. Day of…I'm checking the time I have written down 20 times and now my phone is out for the current time. I have to take in consideration how long it will take me to drive to the appointment, give myself time for traffic, and I'd like to be 5 minutes early. Now I'm checking the time on my phone again. And I will continue to check it a million times until it time to leave. "Ok I have an hour. Don't forget don't forget" I got side tracked by something of course and a supposed minute is in fact an hour. I'm rushing out the door. I have my navigation on before I drive. I feel I am a good driver however, I do like to go a little faster and I do have road rage because I am a super considerate person of others and I know I'm operating a deadly weapon. I arrive at the appointment. I honestly can not tell you how I got there. I rely 100% on navigation and paying attention to traffic and being pissed. I literally black out. I can go to this same place 20 times and still need my navigation. Needless to say. I do not go to appointments for myself. I have 3 kids so I refuse to go for myself. The more I tell myself "Ok focus! Pay attention this time" the worse the black outs seem to be. I have lived in the same tiny 1 traffic light town for most of my life, since 9. I'm 33 now and once in a blue moon without thinking and in a passenger seat I'll look out the window and ask "where are we" and will go on about how amazed I am I have never been there before and my bf will assure me I have but that usually turns into an argument. And same thing. I Could not tell you how to get back. For most of my life I can recall looking out the window while in a car at the trees were going by. I like the movement it makes me feel at peace. I am not hyper physically but I am in my mind. I'm extremely observant of people . I think of every possible angle in situations .Unfortunately, I don't do anything with this information. I just have it in my head. All the time. I'm not lazy I don't think. I hate doing new things but if I have to I want to learn it as quickly as possible so I can go into an "auto" mode doing it. Meaning I don't have to think about it and I can focus on what I want to do. I hate doing the dishes. They'll sit there for two days because I'd rather tote 13 5 gallon buckets of water next door to water the neighbors plants. I went through my entire yard and picked every single sandspurs plant with my bare hands until they were all gone. I hyper focus on things and I feel the need to finish what I start. I know I have other important things to do. It stays in my mind but I don't know why it doesn't get done. I don't know what happens because I want it to all be done. I could go on and on and I know I'm just talking to myself. I know I should talk to a professional but …

  • Reply pomegranateorange June 7, 2018 at 2:25 pm

    Ok but how to solve it. Talk about the solution.

  • Reply Michelle Espino July 26, 2018 at 10:10 pm

    Thank you

  • Reply justanothervote September 22, 2018 at 3:39 am

    Anyone have any job suggestions for people with Add? It sucks I used to do physical work, but blew my back out at my last job, so now I can't do that and I have failed at everything I have tried since 🙁 I am at the end of my rope. And have no Idea what to do now! Any suggestions would be highly highly appreciated!!!! What do YOU do?

  • Reply Iben Gravengaard November 8, 2018 at 9:48 am

    Dr. Barkely is giving a lecture at the time, probably about time.
    And had I in do time, seen the events posting on Facebook, Then I would have had time to time my finances accordingly, to attend the TimeBlindness lecture of ADHD.
    🧐🤨😅

  • Reply T B November 9, 2018 at 4:49 pm

    What kind of job would be best for ADHD people?

  • Reply Jum Broni January 8, 2019 at 12:17 pm

    I have this problem and I can use it just fine

  • Reply Valerie Ann Venezia-Ricciardi February 19, 2019 at 2:16 pm

    I really enjoy Dr. Barkley and I trust that he really wants to change the stigma around ADHD and help educate everyone so that people stop underestimating ADHD. Its serious and it's not fun living with ADHD. But one thing Dr. Barkley mentioned was ADHD people have trouble with time and organization and performance but also we live in the now and we procrastinate and dont plan ahead. I agree with what he is saying, however, in my experience livimg with ADHD & Bipolar, now that Im on medication, I love learning. Not only learning but I absolutely love organizing and productivity and research. My point is sometimes its not that we procrastinate all the time. Some of us do plan ahead, however because mental illness has been pushed aside for so many centuries, we have been left untreated or treated just not properly. So when we do get stabilized on meds, we feel we have so much catching up to Do to the "normal" people that we plan and do too much at a time which causes us to get nothing done because everything attracts our eye. For instance, Im trying to come up with a schedule for my days and create a bullet journal to keep all important information close and a planner so I dont miss appts down the road, but then once im on my phone downloading an app from the play store to help me plan my days, I now see other apps like medication reminders and mindmapping apps and notebook apps and then i see a walmart grocery app and have to download that as well along with a cleaning schedule app and then a commercial will come on about Black History Month and Martin Luther King and then I just have to go research Martin Luther King and then I'll see on Wikipedia about the Civil Rights Act and I have to click on that and then Ill see Abraham Lincoln and Ill have to click on that and now two hours have gone by and I have 30 webpages opened on my phone and I never got to even start what I originally wamted to accomplish. But wait, then the phone rings and its the Dept of Education wanting money from me for my student loans cus they are in default all because I couldnt stick to one major and then got pregnant my last semester of my senior year of college and dropped out and living off welfare. So now I have to fax them documents to get out of default on my loans so I hang up with them and then I'm 4 minutes into gathering my documents to fax when the reminder on my phone goea off to take my meds but then i see my task app and it says I have to send documents to welfare to get food stamps and Medicaid and Liheap cus im way behind on my electric bill cus I cant get along with people and authority which causes me to get fired. So, back to the beginning of this comment, my point again is, sometimes we are not procrastinators and we try really hard to live in your world and be "normal" for society and not a pain in the ass to u all. On the bright side, once we are stabilized, we are like new born children. We just want to know everything and learn everything and everything looks so interesting to us. There just isnt enough time in the day to catch up and learn every little detail of everything.

  • Reply Valerie Ann Venezia-Ricciardi February 19, 2019 at 2:34 pm

    So what ur really saying is, we are screwed? Should people diagnosed with ADHD go on disability then? What treatments are good for us? And what training can Doctors in our County and in our network for Medicaid get? Cuz I research so much on treatments for my diagnosis and I read things like cognitive behavioral therapy and DBT and family engagement or support therapy or art and music therapy, etc….however, I have been to many doctors and many specialists for ADHD and Bipolar and all I ever got was 4 walls and a hard chair to sit at real close with a therapist (not even clinical psychologist, a therapist) and I talked for 45 min while the therapist stared at me. Sometimes a therapist would write while i talk. So, if us people with mental illnesses/diagnosis' of the mind/ brain/ADHD are not functioning to societies norm, its because we arent properly treated because doctors dont seem to care about the low-income, less fortunate people in America. Some of us want the treatment. Some of us want to get better and live like an American citizen and work and pay taxes and overspend on materialistic bullshit that we dont need, and ignore our children cus we work too much…..sorry that was uncalled for. But if we arent functioning at 30 its because our County is not doing their jobs or because of Doctors. Yes I will blame.

  • Reply Esoteric Mystery March 19, 2019 at 3:44 am

    This is very informative!

  • Reply Cool Squirtle March 19, 2019 at 5:07 pm

    What he says: ADHD causes problems with hierarchical organisation

    What I hear, being led by the nose through time: ADHD can't get married

  • Reply Shelly Lepresti March 31, 2019 at 4:43 am

    so entirely accurate for me

  • Reply Snowball 99 March 31, 2019 at 11:13 pm

    Do you have any talks on adult ADHD please? I really hope so because of all the hundreds of videos IV watched I really really relate to your way of explaining it etc . ( My son and I Both have ADHD ) x

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